Got a nice thick package in the mail the other day- from a new lawyer- about impending foreclosure of their former marital residence, which DH signed over ENTIRELY to her in their divorce (she put $ down on that residence with proceeds from sale of her apartment plus a generous "loan" made to her by a gentleman "business acquaintance" who she never paid back because "he had plenty of money and wouldn't need it to be paid back")...um...anyway.

So trying to schedule get-togethers for SSs. They play with the kids in our neighborhood and have a great time BUT they go to school in a different school district and would like their school friends to spend time with this part of their family. Seems reasonable, right?

My summer vacation: teacher and happy to be home with kids. DS11 and DD9 are on vacation with their dad and will be back Saturday....I have DSstb3 as my constant companion this summer, with his toilet training, tantrums, and fascination with bugs...I provide free childcare to SSs10 on BM's custodial days (as well as on DH's, for that matter! ). Halfday camp starts tomorrow for SSs, and next week for all four.

And it is parallel parenting, in every sense of the word. These past years, I've been able to get past some pretty big stuff but the thing that I have NOT been able to get past is anything involving joint expenses. This woman pays nothing she owes. To anyone! She doesn't feel an obligation to pay the bank or anything official; how the hell have we expected her to pay us what she owes us on an ongoing basis? So basically we are just going to go forward paying for the things we can afford, expecting nothing to come from her, ever.