It is NOT POSSIBLE to co-parent with a narcissist.
BM is always going on about how DH is in constant violation of their CO because he won’t co-parent (their CO, like I assume all COs, does not specify co-parenting, parallel parenting or any other type of parenting).

Hi everyone. Do any of you who have 50/50 custody and have more than one kid/skid, have success interpreting "50/50" on CO as you pay for one child's costs and other parent pays for another? In DH's instance, with twins and a despicable BM who makes EVERY SINGLE financial exchange incredibly painful, he is deciding to try to avoid one of them (he or BM) covering full cost at sign-ups, etc....and the other having to pay back, by just having him do one and her do the other. She is of course refusing, citing that she will not have her kids split up like that.

Some work I've been doing involves exploring what I'm hiding, creating myself in alignment with the words I use, and developing/practicing pure listening skills.

I realized that I often listen to my stepsons through the filter of their mother (I hear and see her when they speak, and it affects how I listen to them).

While I was away at the training which facilitated this growth, several people mentioned to me that they perceive me as a nurturer.

In your experiences, what situations have qualified to change a custodial arrangement that has been in place and working effectively for all parties for eight years?

BM is beginning new legal proceedings, claiming that she wants her sons to stay with her during the school week. She has told them that the only way she'll keep them in the district they've been in since kindergarten is if they stay with her during school weeks (blackmail- making them choose between her and their father).