Does anyone else experience the delay?

My SD15 does manage to be quite polite and pleasant most of the time. But like clockwork about 2 days to a week after DH has seen her or a holiday he will get passive aggressive or straight up aggressive messages from BM, or pouty messages from SD.

SD ignored DH from Christmas until New Year's and then managed to send him a small reply the evening of January 1st. Of course it included the standard "I'm busy" but she is constantly on her phone and posting selfies.

My DH is in the military and eligible to retire with a pension. When he retires he can get a new job and make a salary on top of that pension. Most people we know who are doing this are making really good money now.

However just recently he is pretty much told me that he is not getting out of the military until SD turns 18. He sees it as he has a guaranteed paycheck, health insurance and life insurance which is all required in the CO.

Same s#it different month. I refuse to even indulge my DH in talking about this so I'll just vent to you all!

SD15 and BM won't answer DHs messages or calls so he can't arrange a time to see SD15 over the holidays. DH has even sent SD15 some gifts to try to get her to say anything, even that doesn't work anymore.

 When BM messages DH asking for money or paperwork he always responds but as soon as he asks to actually see SD15 it's silence. Could he legally do something about this? Yep. Will he? Nope.

Or older for your poor souls that were on the hook for CS until the "child" is 23.

What really happened when they turned 18?

My DH and I are daring to start to get excited about CS ending. We'll have a vacation fund! He can put money towards our kids college! Home renovation! Investments! $1200 extra a month!!! I could buy a boat!