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I think another marriage just bit the dust......

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I made the mistake last night of answering DH's question "What is wrong?" Instead of saying nothing, never mind, I'll get over it....I told him what was bothering me.

I got my ass handed to me, DH nailed himself to a cross and played martyr. Apparently I'm a selfish, grasping bitch and all I care about is myself. He said he's tired of my attitude and we should just end the marriage.

Money grubbing Harpy! A vent about money.

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My issues aren't so much with DH's kid these days, so much as with her "mother". Uberskank is completely incapable of behaving like an adult. She sends DH texts from his kids cell phone asking him for money. Uses his kid's email account to send him messages, mainly asking for money. Or my personal favorite, uses his kid as a messenger - making up some story to get money.

Are you kidding me? I have to defend DH's daughter???

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I believe hell froze over and pigs were flying around the city since last night.......

DH and I were having dinner last night. I asked if he is making any plans with his kid on her final week of summer visits. DH then starts crabbing about why should we make plans? All she's gonna do is sit in her room all day, doing her hair and watching TV. She'll come out for dinner and then head back in....crab....crab.....crab......crab.....

Impressed with DH's counter-move

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About three weeks ago, DH's kid asked him about school clothes this year. He gave her a budget amount and said he'd be happy to take her during her last week of summer visits with him.

His kid sends him a text last Wednesday. This long, drawn out story about how some of her friends and their moms are going to a large mall together, her mother will be going too. His kid asked if he would send her the money he promised her ASAP so she could go.

I asked...what did you send back to her?

O/T - Anyone with experience with an elderly parent with possible Parkinson's Disease?

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I just got the news from my mother an hour ago and I'm trying to keep it together.

My father has not yet been fully tested but the doctor gave him a preliminary diagnosis of the onset of Parkinson's today. He had a small seizure over the weekend and my mother was able to get him into an appointment today. This is the second seizure he's had in about 10 months. They are going to run tests but the doctor noticed the tremor in my father's hand. He wants to wait for the results before giving them any further information or a prognosis.

Just finished Stepmonster

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I wish this book had been published in 2006 when I first met DH.

No matter what you think when you meet a man with kids, there is no way you can be prepared for the outrageous battles you will face. I most definitely DID NOT know what I was getting into. What I learned from this book was that in most cases, being a step-mother is a lonely, misunderstood and thankless role to take on. That the best we can achieve in our lives is peace and not happiness.

O/T - Anyone else have a partner that snores?

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I am seriously contemplating separate bedrooms at this point. I suffer from insomnia and the volume of DH's snores breaks all sound barriers.

My insomnia aside, we've had no luck with nose strips, night guards or any other OTC snoring cures. He's been tested for sleep apnea and doesn't suffer from it. He does have a deviated septum and is scheduled for surgery in the fall (90% blockage).

Is it all worth it??

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Reading blogs over the weekend, and my own feeling of frustration and being boxed in have had my mind whirling around for a few days now.

I love DH. I'm not going to mince words when it comes to my feeling for him. I know he loves me too. He loves his kid.

Potential for retalitory actions

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DH's kid has two younger siblings, each with their own bio-dad.

Middle dad has custody, DH and last dad do not. Every year since the whole custody ordeal started with DH's kid and her middle sibling, Uberskank always starts something at the end of the school year with one of the dad's. The previous two years it was DH because he had custody. This year it's middle dad. Yup...because he has custody.

Middle dad called DH and asked for help. We were both able to provide assistance and advice, especially advising he retain the same attorney he used at prior hearings.

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