So, ever since my mental breakdown, I've been thinking about some of things that DH said during our fight that were very telling of how he see things. These things also hurt me quite a bit.

I think I am having a mental breakdown. Dh has bipolar,  has not been himself lately and he won't talk to me about it.  What he will do is seize on a small comment or thing that I said and twist it, pouting and sniping at me until I cry or get angry Then he wants an apology. When I apologize, he says he doesn't believe I am sincere and that I am being manipulative. I can't even figure out why we are fighting in the first place. It feels like he is emotionally detached and just wanting me to suffer. This can go on for hours on the weekends.

I've recently come to the realization that its not just my DH that does and says terribly manipulative things in order to "protect me" from his family or vice versa. My own father, whom I dearly love, has recently started lying or bending the truth to suit his needs. He suffers from some sort of neurological degenerative disease in his old age, but refuses to admit that anything is wrong. He lets it slip that he has to see a neurologist every month but when I ask why, he makes excuses.