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DH's try so hard... but just don't seem to get it...

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Submitted by SRS177 on Fri, 05/08/2009 - 11:31am

My DH e-mails me yesterday to let me know that he has to pick up SD11 even though we only have her EOW and Wednesday nights. He had to take her to school this morning because he says EW is going to Arkansas and picking up her mom to take her somewhere for mother's day. I always complain about how they are so buddy-buddy and know everything about each other's lives since they talk 3 times a day. So, he makes a point to add in (know I don't know where, don't care, didn't ask). And, I'm thinking okay, I realize he is trying to appease me there, but he doesn't get it, something like that...

Most Evil - Thank you, you've made me realize I need to get focused and

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Submitted by SRS177 on Thu, 05/07/2009 - 3:03pm

quite feeling sorry for myself. I blogged yesterday about DH not wanting to go with me back to Active and you mentioned that perhaps it was not in God's plan. I am a big believer in fate and you are absolutely right. This was bound too happen sooner or later and after thinking about it, I knew when I was 17 that I wanted to be a mother and I wanted to be lifelong military member and somehow I seriously got derailed and became a wife, tagalong and civillian again.

OMG.. It just hit me. The reason DH bends over backwards for whatever BM wants is because he feels needed and like someone is

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Submitted by SRS177 on Wed, 05/06/2009 - 3:00pm

depending on him. I am not an dependent person and she is the TOTAL opposite, she cannot do ANYTHING by herself. She has to have SS17 to go with her to get her oil changed, okay... seriously?!? Oh yes, everything and of course, that gives her opportunity to call DH. And, since she constantly calls him (& I do mean on a daily basis) and he always jumps, this could be the only explanation.

Well, I finally got a reply from the military. I have to gather my package now, but could be going back in as early as October.

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Submitted by SRS177 on Tue, 05/05/2009 - 3:24pm

However, nothing changed on the homefront, obviously SS17 pulling more crap because he figures I'm leaving as everyone could tell by my earlier blog, I locked him out. AND, of course DH still says he won't go.

I locked SS17 out of the house!

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Submitted by SRS177 on Tue, 05/05/2009 - 9:03am

Teach him to disrespect his father and our home!

This is what happened:

11:00 (DH to SS17) Bedtime - wrap it up (Yes, he still has to be told when to go to bed and when to get up even though he thinks he is soooo grown)

11:30 SS17 still playing

12:00 I push DH and wake him up and tell him to go tell SS17 to go to bed, He still up, didn't even listen to him. DH goes and again says wrap it up, I hear SS17 mumbling something about yeah, I just gotta finish this game.

BM has a flat tire and DH jumps to go help!!??

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Submitted by SRS177 on Thu, 04/30/2009 - 3:15pm

Okay, so last night BM drops off SS17 since it was her middle of the week night and SD11 comes into say hi to DH. Then, SD11 is out the door, not five minutes later, DH gets a phone call from BM saying she has a flat tire and wants DH to bring SS17 and help fix it. :jawdrop:

The woman is nearly 40 years old and she can't change her own damn tire? Or better yet, call her boyfriend to come help her? And, guess what DH does? Oh, you poor thing, I'll be right there. OH YES, he jumps up grabs SS17 and goes rushing out the door... :jawdrop:

Well, another part of the ongoing saga....

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Submitted by SRS177 on Tue, 04/28/2009 - 10:38am

So, I still have not received word from the military whether my paperwork has been approved for the kids and I to go back to active duty. But, this weekend, I find out that my DH who didn't even tell his parents when we were getting married nearly 5 years ago (they found out from the invitation I sent them 3 weeks before the wedding)told them that I was planning on leaving. I then mentioned this to him, to which he asked if I was looking for a fight.

I wish I would have found this site 5 years ago...

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Submitted by SRS177 on Thu, 04/23/2009 - 10:01am

But, then again, I would have been on here like every 5 minutes. Now, it is just too late. So, my kids and I put in paperwork to go back to active duty military. They are very excited about it and I'm getting very excited about it. We have no family close so nothing to hold us here other than the mortgage I share with DH. Since, I told him that I put in the paperwork, he has said no more than 5 words to me each day. He is more concerned about what the dogs are doing than me or the kids.

I'm new here...

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Submitted by SRS177 on Mon, 04/20/2009 - 4:23pm

I'm new here and I actually have three children of my own. DH has two from previous and does everything that I have seen everyone else talking about. He doesn't discipline his kids and in fact SS17 is waiting on a warrant because he was caught breaking into cars and yet DH still totally trusts him. DH said he would stop smoking because he knows how much I detest it, but five years later, he still smokes and now guess what.. lets SS17 smoke in front of house. DH talks to his ex at least once a day and still pays full child support even though SS17 lives with us.