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For those of you who have gone to court for school placement...

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Submitted by steplife on Thu, 07/23/2015 - 1:10pm

What is some of the documentation that was provided to the judge?

What factors did the judge consider and ask questions about during the hearing?

Did they ask for specific evidence for your arguments?

We have met with BM 3 times this summer and she is unwilling to budge, with her main concern being how it will effect her commute (4 miles further than the old school that now has a failing grade, and we are trying to get SD7 into our district now), we are off to court soon.

Any insight is appreciated!

Has anyone shown Skid proof their BM lied to them?

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Submitted by steplife on Tue, 07/14/2015 - 2:35pm

Our BM like many has a habit of trying to make DH look bad any chance she can. SD7 comes home irritated at us and talking about how her mom would NEVER go on a vacation without SD (because DH and I went on an anniversary week long trip, obviously with no children). But BM would Neeeeever do that. More specifically BM would never go to (insert most known child dream vacation place here) without SD.

We have seen on social media that BM has in fact gone to "specific child vacation place" several times without SD and admitted on a post "it's so much fun without kids".

Do any of your Bios hang out with SKIDs at BMs?

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Submitted by steplife on Fri, 06/26/2015 - 10:31am

This is not something that has happened but is something I fear, more hypothetical. Have any bios tried to hang out over at BMs so they can hang out with their sibling more? I don't trust BM at ALL and I never want my kids over there. Has anyone ever had to 'forbid' their bios from going over there? How do you explain it to bios and the skid?

I would also hate if adult bios ever wanted to spend time over there (for events/holidays), but if it ever got to that point I suppose adults can make their own decisions.

How was skid school district decided?

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Submitted by steplife on Wed, 05/06/2015 - 11:04am

This question is for those of you with younger skids and also 50/50 shared physical and legal custody. We have every other week schedule. We live less than 15miles away from BM but in a different district, which statistically has determined to be a better district, one of the better in the state.

Did you have to go to court and let a judge decide? What were some factors that determined the outcome?

SD embellishes all the time!!!

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Submitted by steplife on Mon, 03/16/2015 - 5:15pm

I took my niece(7) to see the new Cinderella this weekend, just released over the weekend. SD7 returned to our home today and we saw my niece. My niece mentioned that we went to see the new movie and SD replies in a snotty tone, "Well I already saw it three times too". I am sure BM took her to see it, but doubt it was three times. My SD does this all the time, someone will say something and she has to lie and exaggerate. It's always "Well I did THIS...blah blah". Why can't she just so "Oh cool, I saw it too". Does anyone else have kids or skids that act this way?

Gift from dead relative....

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Submitted by steplife on Tue, 12/23/2014 - 10:21am

My SD7 came home and said she got to open a few gifts from her BMs family. She wasn't in her normal happy mood when she comes here. They told her one of the gifts was from her dead uncle (teen suicide) who died earlier this year. Is this extremely weird to others like it is to DH and I ?

Why would they do this to her? I understand maybe making a special ornament or some kind of remembrance trinket for him...but this seems so unhealthy/unrealistic, especially for a young child trying to understand death.

Refraining from fun stuff because BM is a Disney Parent

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Submitted by steplife on Wed, 12/03/2014 - 9:30am

SD7 is IMO extremely spoiled at BMs. They go out to the movies almost every week she's there, to the mall to buy SD something new, out to eat, out to ice cream. I know this because every Monday I pick SD up for DHs week SD tells me what she did with her mom over the weekend and about the new stuff she bought.

BM lies about working on Holidays

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Submitted by steplife on Wed, 11/26/2014 - 10:59pm

So last year on a holiday BM told DH she would be picking up SD7 for her scheduled holiday per the CO.

We arrive to meet BM at exchange place and only SF shows up to retrieve SD. He informed us BM was at work. BM never told DH she would be working nor did she let him know SF would be picking up SD.

This was so unfair to SD that she then spent the entire holiday without either bio parent. I thought it was completely effed up that BM did this.

Mothers day gift for me instead of BM

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Submitted by steplife on Wed, 05/14/2014 - 11:21am

We have SD7 every other week. At school she made mother's day stuff and gave ALL of it to me. I asked her "Are you sure you don't want to take it, or at least some of it to BM?" And she said that her and SF already made something for BM and "Why should only my real mom get everything, I want you to give you some stuff too!". I thought it was nice of her to think of me. Also I didn't want to reject it and force her to take it to BM because I know her fellings would be hurt.

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