Before I remarried, I was a patient and kind woman. I don't like who I am now and no matter how hard I try... I can't shake this anger. Everything my step daughter does makes me so mad! She is 13, going on 4 along with all the temper tantrums and hitting. This is the first time I have reached out for support online. I am hiding in my room till her dad gets home because I don't want to fight with her. He supports this because he knows I don't have the patience right now.