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OT: Mom Drama

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Tue, 08/30/2022 - 4:42pm

I have posted previously about my Mom on this blog. For backstory: my mother was abused by her biological father (who had paranoid schizophrenia) until she was 11. My grandma tried to leave numerous times, but was always located and brought back. No fault divorces weren't a thing back then and every time my grandma filed, her request was denied. Her husband appeared to be a model citizen (with narc tendencies) so the locals never suspected a thing. My grandma was also being abused, so it was hard to leave when she had no resources to help you leave.

O/T: Mom Guilt & Helmet

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Tue, 08/16/2022 - 9:20am

Some of you may remember that DD, who is now 6 months old, has been receiving physical therapy for her flat head (plagiocephaly) and tight neck muscles (torticollis). We sought to get her a helmet when she was three months old and went through the whole process. The clinic we were referred to did not accept our insurance, so I asked the pediatrician for a in-network referral to another clinic. When I asked for the new referral, one of the other pediatricians at the practice (not DD's primary) requested a consult.

Going to Visit SS10 & Football

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 08/15/2022 - 9:53pm

When SS10 was visiting this summer, he asked if we would be open to coming to BM's state to watch him play in one football game. Now, we haven't been to BM's state since 2018 because BM was using those out of state visits to argue in court that SS doesn't need to visit us here, that DH could do all visitation in BM's state, at our expense of course. BM wanted DH to visit SS in her state seven to ten weekends per year. DH refused and later, the judge refused, but BM kept remotioning for it.

When Does The Karma Bus Hit? (Vent)

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 07/25/2022 - 11:12am

Maybe I just need validation that I'm not crazy. Maybe I need validation that we are doing the right thing. The drama with the medical reimbursements this weekend has me reeling and again feeling defeated; a feeling that I haven't felt in a really long time. Like Rags always says "Beat them with a rolled up copy of the CO," that is how I feel right now - continually smacked down by a piece of paper for trying to do the right thing. DH and I spent many many years fighting BM to be involved with SS and every time, either she or the courts denied us that right.

Update: Medical Bill (VENT)

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sun, 07/24/2022 - 11:08am

So DH emailed BM asking what the plan is for SS' OT services, since he has been receiving them for 6 months. The therapists encouraged SS' involvement in sports, stating it would improve the condition, so DH didn't know if SS would continue to receive OT or not since football has started. We havent received an update from BM on the status of his OT since February, but we keep receiving bills for continued treatment, so DH wanted to check in. 

Yet Another Medical Bill

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Sat, 07/23/2022 - 8:54pm

We mailed BM a check for $100 for SS' ENT office visit and she informed us today that she received and cashed it. She then responds again, stating that she is sending DH two more medical bills for SS... Like what is going on?! We have paid hundreds of dollars in the past few months in out-of-pocket medical expenses and we haven't even gotten the huge bill for SS' throat scope yet. When is enough going to be enough? 

Oh This Is Too Good...

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Mon, 07/11/2022 - 5:03pm

So SS10 was picked up by BM and GF on Saturday. They left immediately from our house to go on vacation for 3 days to celebrate BM's birthday. They went to the same vacation destination we went to last month. 

For context, my Mom has a friend that runs a hotel at the destination that we went to a few weeks ago. We spent a nice weekend with her and her husband and they showed us around. SS seemed indifferent about them.

Coming to Jesus Meeting with DH

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Submitted by CastleJJ on Fri, 07/08/2022 - 3:58pm

Being a wife, full-time employee, and a mother to DD5months have finally come to a head. I am burnt out. It has been building up for weeks, but yesterday was my final straw. Yesterday, DH was on a business trip down south. He left at 6:30 am and returned around 7 pm. On his way home he texted me telling me to not worry about SS and DD, that he would take care of everything when he got home. Well, he gets home and takes a shower, fiddle farts around, and then made himself a sandwich. By the time he was said and done, DD was in bed and SS was on his way to bed.

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