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I don't know what to do???

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Hi to all, have not blogged here in a while, but I'm in need of some advice. Background on my situation for those not familiar. My bio kids live with their dad (mutual agreement when we split up) and I have regular visitation with them, but it is only 2x's a year, as we live in different states, we all used to live in Fl., but my ex up and decided to move to Tx. a couple of years ago, just kind of took off with the kids, and then I moved back to my "hometown" here in Ma.

Is it love, or a Sickness??

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I have some funny BM antics to share today, this has been a intersesting few days to say the least. It starts the day before Mothers day, when DH called his mom to talk to her, and wish her a happy mothers day and stuff. They of course started talking about the skids, and MIL confessed that when she saw them a few weeks ago, SS told them- "mom is looking for a boyfriend", then he says- "the one she is seeing now looks just like my dad, it's scary". DH got a bit sick over that, lol, and I just laughed it off, cause it's typical of BM.

Continuing to learn just how it is....

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I was hoping this year would be different than last, as far as SD, now 17, would be about her b-day gift. I was hoping DH would get a thank you out of her, without having to "ask for it". But , that's just what happened. He called SD on SS cell phone, they were out with MIL, so it was a "safe" bet that he would get through, did not hear if SS answered his cell, or if DH called MIL's cell after, to get a hold of them. He got SD on the phone, and started talking to her, and asked if she got her cards, with the $$ in it, and her gift. SD said she got them, and that BM was impressed!!!

To Seek The Truth.....

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Sorry if this gets a bit long, but I would like opinions on this. As most of us here know, many of our DH's have been cheated on my the BM. Mine included, and she did this several times over the course of the marriage with my DH. But there is one time that still, to this day, hurts the most. I believe it was most likely the first time she did this to him, but, it was with a close friend of his that he grew up with. Here is were things get wierd for me. This happened shortly after SS was born, while they were on vacation up here on the Cape visiting family.

Overwhelmed......

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Sums up my life right now. Hello to everyone, don't mean to jump on after so long with such a negative vibe,( i see that has been a "thing" on here lately, i was to afraid to comment as i have not been here for a while) but things have been pretty tough. To put it in a few words: I Hate Autism!!! I hate what it is doing to my son. The past few weeks have been such a struggle, His teaching team that comes to our home is great, but they are pushing him really hard, and I know he needs it, I understand, but it's heartbreaking!

Hi everyone :)

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Have missed you all the past few weeks, I see there is a lot going on!! Well, life has been pretty interesting here, my son has started therapy services for his Autism....they come to my home 3 x's a week right now to start, for 3 hour sessions. Then he still has E.I. services 2 x's a week, sooooo we are pretty busy everyday!! My son is doing great with this so far, but it's a lot of work and he is still getting used to it (so am I ). Also I have been communicating w/ my SS through myspace, and so far so good still.

OT~ Diagnosis.

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Well on Monday, my son's test results came in. He is diagnosed with Autistic Disorder. I knew this was coming, and was not surprised, but I'll tell you....to hear it from the doctor, was heartbreaking. I tried to hold back the tears but could not. You are never really prepared for that moment. He is still the same kid that he was a few days ago, but now things just feel different. The bright spot, if any in this situation, is now we can start services for him besides just Early Intervention. The doc.

BM is Not gonna like this one.

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But thats really just to bad for her. SS as of yesterday, has started communicating with me/us through myspace. I have had a page for a while now, but never talked to him on it because of BM. (of course she has one too). Well I got a friend request from him, and accepted it. Before I did, I made some minor changes to my page, taking out a few pics. and personal info, etc.just in case of anything. Then chatted with him for a while yesterday. It was nice, and great to see some of his pictures. He's a skater, and does alot of graphic art, so it was pretty cool.

Updates on stuff.....

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As you all know, the past few days, I'v had alot going on, and now there is a much welcomed lull. First off, my mom did well in court (thanks to everyone for your support, kind words and insight), I know I have blogged this one to death, but I was glad that my mom held herself together while having to be in a court room with my father. My mom's lawyer, however, is turning out to be quite the "bull dog", as she says. He had so much evidence, that it was enough for the judge to bring this to trial.

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