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OT - My son's dad died this morning

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Wed, 09/09/2020 - 6:56pm

I just found out my ODS10 dad passed away from a heart attack this morning. He hadn't seen him in 5 years, but I know he's going to be devastated - and I'm devastated for him. I don't know what I should tell him or when - he has his first day of in person school tmrw so I don't want to tell him before that.. Or if it would be better or worse for him to go to the funeral.

Stupid selfish post

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Sun, 09/06/2020 - 7:15pm

SD comes back tmrw after being gone for 3 weeks. Which always sucks. Its just nicer when she's not here. But I'm feeling kind of down for a dumb reason too. I just got a new puppy 2 weeks ago. Partially to help with my PPD/PPA. And, well, I dont want to deal with the passive aggressiveness that I know is probably coming with SD wanting it to be her dog and hers alone. Anyone who knows my SD knows that anything that is hers is hers, and anything that isn't hers is also hers. Possessions, attention, etc. That also extends to animals.

Small silver linings

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 09/03/2020 - 3:12pm

Small bright side to the messed up school year this year - no attending school events that BM is at. I HATE that SD and ODS are in the same grade because having to attend things BM is at sucks. But since none of that is happening this year, no reason to see BM at all. Also, they start middle school next year and SD has zero interest in band or choir or any sports so...hopefully nothing with BM anytime in the foreseeable future. Yay.

FIL liking BMs selfies?

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Wed, 08/26/2020 - 2:39pm

Title pretty much says it all. FIL was insistent he added BM on Facebook years after DH and her broke up because he needed to see the pics she posted of SD....and now he's apparently also going back and liking selfies of BM from weeks ago. And BM probably thinks we're spying on her through him. Cool.

Opinions

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Mon, 08/17/2020 - 3:54pm

Didn't want to to overtake another blog, but just curious after reading some comments. Since steplife involves alot of people feeling the need to express unwanted opinions (and for some reason thinking their opinion is more valid then the SMs), what are your go to responses for unwanted opinions? Both snarky and gentle.

This is actually one of my biggest pet peeves in general. Some people think they are THE EXPERT on absolutely everything, and especially if kids are involved feel that they're obligated to tell you what they think and push it to happen.

Emotional support

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Submitted by Jcksjj on Thu, 07/30/2020 - 1:09pm

I'm so over having a DH that acts like a robot and can't seem to be able to provide any emotional support (which was also a complaint BM had with him, go figure). 

Anyone else?

Also over his victim mentality and acting like I'm the enemy instead of his teammate. If I have an issue with him, no matter how its approached the script has to be flipped so HE'S the one being persecuted.

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