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Count Down. A mild rant.

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Submitted by New Mama on Sun, 01/22/2012 - 9:48pm

4,152 days until SS7 is 18 years old and can move out.

I don't hate my SS. I hate the way he behaves. I hate how thoughtless and uncaring he is. I hate that he's a bully to other kids. I hate that he attempts to bully me. I hate how greedy he is. And I hate that he was raised (by his grandparents) to believe he is the only kid in the universe that matters. I hate that no matter what DH and I do for him, it's never good enough. I hate how we have to nag him to do any and everything. And I really hate the way he whines and complaines about everything.

Resisting the urge to intervene.

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Submitted by New Mama on Tue, 01/17/2012 - 5:45pm

I disengaged a little over a week ago but I've been spending most of that time in the bedroom and avoiding any issues. DH and I agreed that I would no longer intervene and I would allow him to be a parent to SS7. Since I disagree with his parenting, I stay away. However, DH, very kindly asked me if I would be willing to come back to join the family. I have humbly agreed.

SS7 came home from school and dropped his shoes, jacket, and backpack in the middle of the floor. DH immediately told him his things don't belong there and made him take them to his room. Bravo, DH!

It's so unfair!

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Submitted by New Mama on Mon, 01/16/2012 - 9:28am

We had a fantastic weekend without SS7! We took walks around the block, took BD1 to ride her new tricycle, and watched late night movies while cuddling on the couch. No one had to nag SS7 to do his chores, send him to his room for not sharing, or spank him for talking back. DH and I didn't fight once. Not once.

SS7 said "I want to kill myself"

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Submitted by New Mama on Fri, 01/13/2012 - 2:49pm

I disengaged last Sunday and I haven't spoken to or seen SS7 since then. DH has been handling everything for SS7.

DH and I talked last night and came to terms on what is and is not acceptable behavior from a 7 year old. We agreed that I would stop intervening and let him be a parent. We worked everything out, we both apologized for things we said, and life (for the most part) is back to normal.

Disengaged means sitting in our bedroom by myself.

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Submitted by New Mama on Thu, 01/12/2012 - 10:59am

I've been disengaged since last Sunday when DH had a huge argument over SS7's homework.

SS7 is behind at school. He's so far behind that we're concerned he may not move on to 2nd grade. So, I took the initiative to find out exactly what he needs to work on, printed some worksheets online, and came up with a schedule for him to start playing catch up. On the weekends he sits down for 2 30 minute sessions and reads one book.

A little about my blended family.

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Submitted by New Mama on Wed, 01/11/2012 - 1:30pm

DH and I have been together for 3 years, living together for 2. We're not married but I call him DH for all intents and purposes. He has a son, SS7, from a previous relationship. We have a daughter, BD1, together and one one the way in June.

When DH and I started dating (4 years ago), he had full custody of son but SS didn't live with DH. SS had been living with DH's parents for the last 3 years because, DH says, he was too young to take care of SS.

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