As I've stated in the last two blogs, SD10 is pulling away. We are now going on EOW number 5 that she has either not come to visit at all or only come for a few hours. Of course, I do not think it is a coincidence that this behavior began immediately after DH told her that we were expecting a baby. The comments that BM has made to her are:

Since they couldn't take you away from me, they are going to finally have their own.

Since you love me more than them, they are replacing you.

You don't have to go over there any more because they have their hands full.

I've always known there would be a day when SD10 would start to remove herself from our lives. Her mother is the queen of parental alienation. You know, since BM has been drilling it into her head since the age of 2 that she doesn't have to go see her daddy after age 12, I assumed age 12 would be the time. Then when we found out we were pregnant, I assumed the process would begin about the time the new baby was born, i.e. having to share her Daddy's attention, space, etc. But who would've guessed that it would begin as soon as her Daddy told her there would be a new baby.

I know I will hear arguments to this post but I just have to vent. DH and I have been together since 2007. I moved from another state with my boys (5 and 7 at the time) to start a new life with DH. When I did this, I hadn't sold my 4 BR home in the other state yet, so we moved into a 2 BR family home to save on costs. DH and I had one BR and my two boys shared the other BR. There was a small "office-like" area in the front of the house that we put a bed in and made a space for his daughter to sleep (2 at the time).

So after the issue with the brother-in-law, DH called and said that BM called and asked if he wanted to take SD9 to lunch because BM had some meetings she needed to attend and she was trying to follow the new "right of first refusal" rules. Then she proceeded to tell DH that SD9 was sick. So she's sick and you want him to take her to lunch? What?