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Disney Dad on crack!

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Submitted by red flags on Tue, 12/04/2012 - 4:48pm

UGH!!!!! So, DH and I are in a spat today. It's nothing earth shattering, but I'm super annoyed with the way that he handled something in our business (we are law partners). And of course, tonight has to be a SD10 night... which got me to thinking... every time he and I are annoyed with one another he goes above and beyond with the Disney Dad shit. I don't know if he does it consciously to rub my nose in it, or if his bruised little ego just needs someone to worship him, but it happens without fail.

The little digs... How do you guys cope?

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Submitted by red flags on Sat, 12/01/2012 - 10:33am

So last night I told FDH something that was hard for me to admit... Every time the topic of our wedding comes up, SD10 makes a not-so-subtle dig towards yours truly. Last night she informed me that even after my wedding, "we" meaning her and "daaaaaddy" would still be referring to me by my maiden name. He was good, in that he quickly corrected her. But it was hard for me to admit that these constant little digs hurt my feelings.

With no authority comes no responsibility

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Submitted by red flags on Fri, 11/23/2012 - 3:15pm

This is my new mantra! Thought I'd share in case it brought anyone else the same sense of peace and well being as it is currently bringing me. DH unilaterally decided against counseling for SD10, who really is developmentally behind. He told me after a fight we had and I'm sure he expected me to lose my mind since he agreed to it over a month ago and has done nothing. NOPE! I made a decision to check out. All the way out! I am just going to be supportive of whatever parenting decisions HE makes with HIS kid.

I'm watching the mover Stepmom...

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Submitted by red flags on Sat, 11/03/2012 - 3:52pm

...and I just can't get over what a load of bullshit it all is. Seriously, if our BM were to ever actually speak to me about SD10, much less cooperate with DH and I on any issue, I'd fall over & die! Of course, that's probably why SD10 has the social maturity of a 6 year old. I swear, sometimes it seems like EOWE I discover a new thing she's completely behind on learning. Today's discovery... She can't even put her hair in a pony tail by herself. I don't know why this frustrates me to no end. Not my kid, not my problem.

Holidays, Oh Holidays... SIGH (of relief or resentment...TBD)

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Submitted by red flags on Mon, 10/08/2012 - 8:27pm

So after this weekend's bratty behavior by soon to be SD10 at my fiance's nephew's wedding, tonight we had a discussion about our holiday plans for this year. We have SD10 this year for Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve, both of which are a big deal in my family. Last year, we had her for Christmas Day. My then SO brought her to my parents' house where she received a massive pile of gifts totaling over $1000 in value all themed around remodeling her bedroom (which hadn't been updated since she was an infant).

Curious how others view this little blended family hiccup

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Submitted by red flags on Sat, 03/24/2012 - 10:21pm

So, today it occurred to me to think about FDH''s and my wills. We are planning on getting married next year, and will obviously need to change our wills accordingly. He has a SD9, I have no kids, but plan on having one or two with him. My thought is that my will will split my assets amongst MY kids only. SD will inherit from her mom and part from her dad. It got me to wondering how you all deal with this somewhat sticky situation. I have substantially more assets than SD's bio mom. Does this make it okay for FDH to account more for SD than for our future kid(s). How does this work?

Here we go again... Is there ever any reprieve?

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Submitted by red flags on Sat, 03/03/2012 - 4:31pm

Another day, another BM headache... This time it's over SD9's medical insurance. So, I'm sure I've already mentioned that FDH has 50/50 and still pays $500 a month in child support. BM is ordered to pay for her medical insurance. Additionally, she has claimed her for taxes every year for the last 9 years, when they should be able to switch every other year. So SD's insurance premium went up $100 per month and she wants another $50 from FDH. Sounds like no big deal, except that BM is fucking psycho.

BM Hell and My upcoming weekend - FML

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Submitted by red flags on Thu, 02/23/2012 - 2:13pm

So, this weekend we have my FDH's SD9. I normally do not dread our weekends with her, but this weekend is destined to be a disaster. We have 2 events (a girl scout event and a violin recital) that will require me to see her BM, and this woman hates me with the burning passion of a thousand suns.

I haven't had any interaction with this bitch since Christmas (when I joined steptalk). Over Christmas, she made it her mission to ruin my holiday. Just a little background, so you know what kind of hell beast I'm dealing with...

Can't handle the laziness

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Submitted by red flags on Thu, 02/09/2012 - 4:04pm

I am so frustrated with SO and his daughter today that I am about to lose my mind. So here's what's going on...Last night, I volunteered to do an evening court appearance for my SO (we are both lawyers) so that he could spend some quality time with his daughter. Mind you, I had been up that morning since 4:30 am, but he hadn't seen her since last Thursday, so I wanted to do him the favor. When I got home from court, he was on the couch watching basketball and she was in her room zoned out in front of the TV. Not entirely horrific, but it gets worse.

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