BM has no idea we have access to her Facebook page, yet she posted this video in dedication to my DH. She screwed up their marriage & was the one who chose to leave over & over. I feel like a dumbass for feeling this way, but I kind of feel sorry for her...

"White Flag"

I know you think that I shouldn't still love you,
Or tell you that.
But if I didn't say it, well I'd still have felt it
where's the sense in that?

I promise I'm not trying to make your life harder
Or return to where we were

I posted a comment on someone else's blog in polite disagreement but it was deleted. I can only guess to make it appear as though everone agrees with the OP's thoughts. So, I'm posting it in my own blog.

As far as people passing judgement on a man who cares deeply for his girlfriend's daughter,

I have posted before about the situation we have with BM. Long story short, BM was absent for 4 years when skids were young. She came back & told them she was terminal with Stage 4 Hodgkins Lymphoma. Skids wanted to spend her last 8 months with her, so DH let them go. Turned out to be untrue. 6 years later she's a bigger pain in the ass than she's ever been. We know she truly has had cancer. She had it when she & DH were still together. She lied about the severity of it to convince skids to forgive her for leaving & to get them to want to be with her.

Skids are not involved. That seems to be what's creating difficulty with DH & I. Not that we don't get along or love each other. I love being with him. Things have taken a huge turn, though, since we met, & I'm not sure either of us really knows how to carry on with each other without skids in our lives.