I have been reading post after post and it feels like without the support of DH, without concrete house rules for all kids, without the united front, it just isn't going to work.
I am depressed watching my marriage fade away and I have put up a hell of a fight. The scary part is we love each other and we agree on everything and do everything together until SD comes to the house.

I have been spending time reading this morning and I realize that everyone handles Step parenting differently. I have come to the point in my relationship with SD that is nothing and I will have to take some responsibility for it. I do not agree with the way she is being raised. I am shocked by her behavior and the fact that she is NEVER accountable for her actions. I have the 'gut feeling' that she is heading for a lot of trouble. BUT no one seems to care but me.

I caught my SD flat out lying to us. I knew that she was on Facebook and getting a lot of friends that were not approprite (she is 12). When my Brother and I were talking about Facebook and the people from highschool that we were finding she said " what is Facebook?, how does that work?" She has been on it since at least April and has over 200 friends. Anyways, my DH was sitting right there and when we were alone I asked him what he was going to do about my SD's lying. He did NOTHING. The next time I checked Facebook, I noticed she took her pic off the screen.

Ok, I found out why DH is so reluctant to do anything with SD....BM. I am being told because I recently tried to get her to stop sassing, not to slam doors, etc that she does not have to "listen to me" I guess BM went off on my DH. Her BF has been in SD life for 5 years and she was told at a young age that he is not allowed to tell her what to do...is that normal? Therefore, she is allowed to treat him however she wants and he is not allowed to tell her to behave????? And that is what she expects me to do?