Thanksgiving dinner was DH, SSs, MIL, BIL, SIL, BIL & SIL's 2 kids, SIL's parents, and MIL's friend.

SIL did not even look in my direction. I talked to both of her parents and interacted with her kids and didn't even get so much as a side glance from her. As soon as she arrived, she left the room to supposedly deal with her five year old who was "feeling shy" and when we left, she also left the room when we were saying our goodbyes.

Something happened today that wasn't a big deal, but for some reason it just pushed me over the edge.

Last weekend, special snowflake SS came up to me and said, "mom said she would buy a basketball hoop for us to have over here if it's ok." I replied, "well, your dad doesn't really want one and we'd have to talk to the neighbors about it, so that's a nice offer, but we won't take it."

This was our visitation with SSs and over the two days, DH received no fewer than 20 angry texts from BM.

Issue #1 - Before arriving on Friday, one SS texted me to say he needed help with a school assignment that he hadn't gotten an F on. I told him, that was fine, I'd see if I could find the book at the library. Less than an hour later, DH picked him up and, of course, he forgot his school bag. He still wanted to do the assignment, so he insisted that DH contact BM to ask if he could come back to the house and pick up his school bag.

I've posted here several times about how my SSs have a tendency to not do homework. Last year, we went to the mid-year conference and found out that neither child handed in much homework. Before that point, DH had not seen any report cards (they had the correct mailing address for him on file in the office and kept telling them we mailed them, but we never received any, even after going to parent conferences). He decided that he was going to call both boys daily to check in on homework and work with them on it, via phone.