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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 03/18/2015 - 2:11pm

I love to read. But defintely in the past few years I havent had time for it like I used to.

I read all types of books.

I went to the library a couple of weeks ago and got a lot of books and I am working my way through them while I have some down time. Recently read in the past week:

I read the book by Michelle Knight (the Cleveland OH kidnap victim)

I'm With the Band by Pamela Des Barres. Memior about a groupie.

Currently reading Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty. Very good book so far and I plan on reading some more by her.

For those of you in multiple step situations (SM, BM, SD, etc)

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 03/17/2015 - 8:26am

For those of you in multiple step situations, which one do you find the hardest?

Dealing with BM?

Dealing with the skids?

Dealing with your bio kids SM?

Dealing with you own SP?

I am a SD. My mom was remarried once and my dad twice. I have never had any issues as a step children. My dad has been with my SM since I have been 16 and I love her to pieces. I think she is great. Growing up my SF was there for me more then my own bio dad. I was pretty upset when him and my mom divorced when I was almost 12.

Why MSD wanted to talk to DH- update

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Fri, 03/13/2015 - 5:06pm

Update to this blog: http://www.steptalk.org/node/213129

I asked DH "So what did MSD have to talk to you about?" (I was going to leave it alone but felt the time was good last night to ask him and I was curious still.)

First he acts all confused and acts like he didn't hear me and I'm just like :O . I swear that man cant handle any communication when it comes to something he is uncomfortable with.

Is your love for your SO that strong to deal with the skids and BM drama?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 03/11/2015 - 1:43pm

Real question. And not trying to offend anyone.

But seriously some of the shit I read on here, dealing with BM and the skids, I just couldnt do it for no man.

I'm very independent. I put my happiness first. Because if I am not happy, I can not make anyone else happy. And if BM and the skids are causing a lot of stress in my life then I am surely not going to be happy.

I am also very selfish. No man is "that good" that I would sacrfice my happiness for someone else's.

SM spidey sense

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 03/11/2015 - 10:18am

Monday night I had a dream about MSD19. I havent really thought about her. The dream (which made sense when I was having it and right afterwards)was a jumble of issues I have had/have with MSD. It was so weird. We were fighting really bad it in and saying awful things to each other.

I woke up feeling a little odd, since I hadn't thought about her recently and normally my dreams are about things/stuff/people I had recently thought about.

Anyways, me being nosey yesterday (not even thinking about the MSD dream)I look at DH's phone. I see a text from MSD.

What is something that the skids or BM did that sent you over the edge (Snapped!)?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 10:17am

Have you ever done something ridiculous or just went off or crazy over something stupid that the skids or BM did?

That when you look back you think W.T.F just happened? Were we really fighting about that? or did that really set me off?

For me it was potato salad. OSD made potato salad in the kitchen of my house that I had bought (it was MY house in MY name). I hadn't even moved into the house.

I had been dreaming of cooking a meal myself, breaking in my kitchen myself, when bitch OSD decides to make her Daaaadddddyyy potato salad in MY kitchen.

Hard to take DH's as a Parent seriously

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 9:50am

I find it hard to take DH as a parent seriously. He is what I refer to as a "half ass parent."

I think because I dont take his roll as a parent seriously I am more apt to dismiss the kids and dismiss that he is an acutal father.

No matter how much I dont like the skids, I always support his need/want for a relationship with them. BUT I dont take what he is doing very seriously.

I understand that people parent differently. What works for me, may not work for him. How he and BM operated their family, may have been normal for them, but for me I think WTF :?

DH refers to his kids as "my daughters" "my daughter" never her name

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 03/09/2015 - 9:25am

DH rarely says the girl skids (especially MSD and YSD) names.

It's always "My daughter" or "my girls".

Me: DH what are you doing today?

DH: I'm taking MY daughter to lunch.

Me: Hey DH any plans later?

DH: I'm spending time with MY girls.

And then there is me.

DH: What do you have going on today Zero?

ME: I'm taking BSNAME to the movies.

DH. I get it. They are your daughters. Your girls. I know that. Why dont you just say there names?

It annoys the hell out of me. I dont know why.

BS's weekend with his dad- Update on my last blog

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 03/02/2015 - 11:09am

Update to this blog:

http://www.steptalk.org/node/212400

BS did go with his dad. I met with him Saturday morning. Ex was not dressed in funeral clothes which I thought was a little strange considering Ex told me he had a funeral to attend that morning. He even had me dress BS in funeral clothes. And when I mentioned that BS didnt have funeral shoes (He only has tennis shoes and snow boots right now) Ex said "dont worry about it, I will get him some."

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