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Guess who DH is texting....

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Person: Hey

DH: Hey Baby

Person: How was your day?

DH: Cold

Person: I know that is how everyone has felt this week

DH: Is everything good

Person: Yeah, just a lot going on

DH: Well dont worry I am going to take you our on Saturday for some fun

Person: Ok

Is it:

A) His wife- Me

Dirol A secret lover

C) His 15 year old daughter

BM texting DH being a bitch about OSD's birthday- I really wanted to give her a piece of my mind

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DH blocked BM's number like 1 1/2 years ago due to her sending verbally abusive texts. It's been NICE to not have to deal with her.

Yesterday DH gets a call and picks it up. It's from a different number. It's BM. She starts cussing out DH that he missed OSD's birthday the day before. He said he told her "Get a life" and hung up.

So then she sends a text something like "I have a life. You are a piece of shit. The world's worse father. You are the scum of the earth. You do nothing and have nothing and have a wife you don't even love."

Do you think as a SM you are controlling?

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I read a lot of posts on here and I feel like as SM's we are doing a lot of controlling or trying to.

Controlling how visits between the skids and SOs go- What they do or dont do or what we think they should be doing

Controlling how much money our SOs spend on the skids- minor or adults, birthday/Xmas gifts or just helping them out when needed- even when the money is strictly SOs money.

Controlling phone calls- mad when the skid calls SO and mad when they dont.

I know I am guilty at times of doing these things.

Walking Dead Fans- This is something interesting

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Last night I was watching the TV Show Gotham. I really think the actor who plays Oswald Cobblepot/Penguin is GREAT. So I was looking him up and found that he had a part on TWD.

http://walkingdead.wikia.com/wiki/Sam_(TV_Series)

I thought the article was interesting. I sure didnt catch on that he was from the previous season.

Anyone else?

I just made sure that I am NOT spending Thanksgiving with my BS so I dont have to spend it with the skids!

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Originally DH and I were going to go out of town/state for Thanksgiving. BS was going to go with his dad.

Change of plans- we are staying in town. I call Ex to let him know. He is a server, so the weekends are when he makes his money. He lives an hour away too. So setting up visitation, etc is sometimes hard.

So I let Ex know- change of plans, if you need to work, let me know and I can get BS earlier then originally planned (Sunday afternoon) BUT can you still keep him on Thanksgiving?

BM gets richer and we get poorer- but there is an upside!

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Kind of an update to this post: http://www.steptalk.org/node/203397

CS says that it is the correct amount. So while DH was paying $441 for 2 kids last year, he is now paying $569 for 1 kid, even though his income hasn't changed. Yeah doesn't make sense but whatever. Only option is to get a lawyer at this point. Not gonna happen.

With arrears BM is getting $950 in CS per month. That is more then our mortgage payment.

Riddle me this one.....

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Last year BM could go back for a modification because it was 3 years. So October 2013 it was determined that DH had to pay X amount of money. It included some arrears from when SS lived with him but then graduated and BM or DH never got it adjusted, so DH should have been paying BM more since she had 2 kids and he now had none.

So with TWO kids and arrears the amount was $600 per month.

MSD19 "aged out" in May 2014. (Really she aged out in November 2013 when she was 18, not going to school and not living with BM, but that is a whole nother bitch.)

Skids so gross... what does it say about our SOs?

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Seriously. I read some really messed up stories on here about skids and their (lack of) hygiene habits. I'm not trying to judge anyone's SO. But some of these kids that are peeing their pants, not using tp, picking their noses, sucking thumbs at age 5, smell so awful you cant breathe around them, WHERE THE HELL ARE THE PARENTS?

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