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What should I do with this album?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 08/28/2014 - 1:17pm

I came across a photo book when DH and I moved in together. Its small. Has pics of the kids when they were little. Also some pics of BM and the kids. And a couple of pics of BM and DH on their wedding. :sick:

I am pretty sure that it was OSD's because there are a lot of pics of her in it.

Initially I just put it away in a drawer and didnt really think about it.

I have been doing a lot of deep cleaning. I am not a person to keep stuff unless I need it or love it. Obviously I dont need or love this album.

I am not even sure that DH remembers that it exists.

My New Motto

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/25/2014 - 10:17am

If you treat the Queen of the Castle like shit, you will be banished from the Kingdom.

Bottom line, you treat me like crap in my own home (steal, snarky remarks and comments, stink eye, making up lies about me, etc) you will not be allowed back over.

Plain and simple...especially for the grown skids.

I own this home. I pay the bills. This is my safe haven. Not sure why you (skid) think you can come into my Kingdom and try to test the boundaries and push buttons.

Nope- EXILED!

Does your SO treat you different when the skids are around?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Wed, 08/20/2014 - 9:02am

Ever since the skids and I stopped getting along, I feel that DH treats me differently when they are around.

Normally he is very loving to me. Respectful. Treats me like a Queen. He wouldnt be okay with someone being rude and disrepectful to me.

However when the girl skids (YSD and MSD) are around, he changes.

It's almost like he is trying to please "2 sides" and cant do it. Of course since "Im just the 2nd wife" its me who gets the shaft.

I didnt come into this evil but I may come out of it evil.....

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Tue, 08/19/2014 - 7:49am

Seriously I am normally a nice sunshiney person. Smile Well I was... about 4 years ago.

I still see it when I am around my BS and my family and friends and even sometimes with DH.

I have never held on to so much anger, resentment and hatred as I do when it comes to DH's kids. These feelings are also extended to BM at times. Even though I rarely think of her or have to deal with her. Sometimes even DH's family. But with the skids- its constant.

Angry at DH because of his kids... ugh so annoyed- hate being a "Stepmom"

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Mon, 08/18/2014 - 6:23pm

This is a vent... and I know I am being bitchy- FYI*****

3/4 skids are adults. Thankfully I don't have to see them too much. SS20 I actually don't mind. OSD21 lives out of state so I dont really have to see her often. MSD18 and YSD15 are pretty much the only 2 that I have to see and they are the 2 that I dislike the most.

Oddly my expectations of MSD and SS have changed....

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Fri, 08/15/2014 - 9:07am

SS lived with DH when we first started dating and eventually lived with me as well when DH and SS moved in to my apartment- then the house we own now.

SS was always skipping school, smoking pot, jumping from girl to girl. Never trying to improve himself. Blowing money.

MSD is super smart. She is a hard worker. Seemed on top of her game, even at 16. Always cleaned DH's apartment, because she liked to clean. Conscience about money.

Fast forward to today:

okay got MSD's attendance records

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 08/14/2014 - 4:03pm

***Refer to last 2 blogs for background...

Out of 244 days of school, she only attended class 73 of those days. She basically stopped attending school in February. She was absent every day starting in Feb. and they were all unexcused. There were numerous other days that she was absent between Sept-Jan but most were excused for "medical reasons". Assuming they gave her a pass because she has a baby that was born 3 months early (born in May 2013)and that is why she was out those days.

What does this mean?

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 08/14/2014 - 12:01pm

Okay received a response back from Child Support in regards to the email I sent. (see prior blog)

So does anyone really know what this means? I will research it more to see if its something we would want to pursure. But if anyone here has first hand experience filing a recourse, or how to go about that, I would appreciate hearing about it.

From Child Support:

Just let it go.....

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Submitted by zerostepdrama on Thu, 08/14/2014 - 9:02am

I sent an email to CS regarding the possible "overpayment" to BM.

Basically even though MSD was 18, as long as she was in HS full time, DH had to pay CS. Even though MSD has a baby of her own and wasn't even living with BM.

That alone irked me enough, especially since she wasn't helping MSD at all... not giving her any of the child support money. Or the few months that MSD did live with BM, BM was charging her rent.

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