Has anyone attended Alanon?  DH has quit drinking liquor, but still drinks.  Granted it's 1/8th or less then he did, a beer at night or a Mike's hard lemonade and stops.  I noticed on the weekends though he loads up on several of these.  Doesn't get like he was but we went through many years of this battle and I won't lie, I have developed co-dependency and PTSD from it. Trying to control, etc etc.

My question is not about that, but more about Alanon's format. Is it very faith based?  Is it really focused on a supreme being controlling outcomes, prayers, stuff like that?  

AND, it was actually very nice.  The gender reveal was survived, NOT my crowd at all but it went well, looks like DH is having a grandson.  BM had her moments of wanting to reminisce with DH-which I gave her that and just sat to the side and pretended to not eavesdrop lol.  DH did a couple times not answer some of the reminiscings, but overall it wasn't crazy.  She greeted us with a hug and seemed happy to see us.  Her fiance was pretty standoffish, never came close enough to introduce himself or have BM introduce him, we did find that a little odd.  SD and her boyfriend seemed very happy a

So, this whole gender reveal party thingy is REALLY throwing me off.  It's been about 1.5yrs of no contact with BM (since SD's graduation) and no drama.  I guess DH and I were hoping to never ever have to deal with her again in our lives, SD has stated she didn't want kids at ALL, and that IF she did it would only be because her partner really wanted one, but it would be in her 30's.  She was adamant about it.  As you know, I think her bf's influence has likely been key in her going ahead with this pregnancy.  So here after only a small break, we get to have bm involved/wrapped up somewhat

So, as you know with SD being pregnant, I had not responded to the invite to the gender reveal party.  1st- I'm disappointed in her decision to go ahead with the pregnancy- correction we BOTH are, though I'm more on team 'let her do what she wants' I know it's just plain dumb at her age 2nd- I hate gender reveal parties, find them narcissistic and idiotic, we had both decided not to do originally since there will be other events soon enough.