It’s so frustrating. I feel like we (DH & I) never get anywhere with the SSons. Here’s the latest and greatest example:

Step Forward #1 – SS15 asks to have access to our Wi-Fi. DH tells him to ask me since I know the password and DH never bothered to memorize it. DH also tells SS15 there will be rules with having the privilege of using our Wi-Fi.

Step Forward #2 – SS10 also wants access to the Wi-Fi for his iPod Touch. Again DH tells him to ask me. DH also tells SS10 that it’s up to me and that there will be rules.

First a little background:

1. BM is perennially late/DH is always early. BM was 10 minutes late to the 20 minute conference appt.
2. BM doesn’t check homework consistently/DH checks homework all the time.
3. BOTH BM & DH are inconsistent in correcting SS10 when it comes to respecting adults. SS10 doesn’t acknowledge adults when they acknowledge him. Example: When an adult says “hello” to SS10 he will just stare at that person without saying anything.

So SS10’s teacher tells DH & BM:

I’ve been at work all day and am dreading going home because the skids are there. It’s the second weekend in a row they are with us due to BM’s work schedule.

All I want to do when I get home is sit my butt down in front of the TV, have a beer, and snuggle with DH, BUT that won’t happen because god forbid the skids have to give up the TV and sofa.

Oh and SS10 has been getting on my last nerve lately. He’s consistently tired and crabby, just a PITA. If we don’t do what he wants to do he pouts it’s so annoying.

SS10 sleeps with BM.

It’s got to the point where he doesn’t even try to sleep in his own bed at her house, just goes right into her bed at bedtime. When BM attempts to have SS10 sleep in his own bed he throws a massive fit–crocodile tears, cries till he makes himself sick etc. Of course BM caves-she can’t stand to have SS10 upset-she’s better at being a friend than a parent.

So her solution is? …BM wants DH talk to SS10 about it, to take care of it for her. Brilliant.