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Submitted by ITB2012 on Sat, 07/25/2020 - 2:26pm

DH and I just starting wearing things that track health info including a breakdown of how well you slept. DH used his for the first time last night. (I know friends of the people who started this wearable and are in the business and say it's accurate.) He and I were shocked at how little deep sleep he got. Like nearly nothing. And he's the one telling me we have to sleep in the same bed/room and I've been the one telling him he's keeping me from getting a good nights sleep. Sleeping separately and his numbers are bad and my numbers are great. Proof!

DH is frustrated with DS

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 07/21/2020 - 3:14pm

DS19 is my bio and he and a friend are doing a bunch of handyman jobs for DH.

DH is not frustrated for the typical skid reasons (lazy, sloppy, late, etc.). Nope, DH is frustrated because the kids are working more diligently than he expected and he had to run a couple errands to get stuff to stay ahead of them and finish up his own part of the jobs. 
 

Is there something wrong with me?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 07/16/2020 - 11:07pm

To show DS something I had to go far back in my pictures on my phone. And so I started cruising through some old stuff. Found pictures of my house (that was mine and would have been paid off a few months ago had I stayed in it).

Its been 8.5 years and I miss my house. Not like nostalgia. Like I want to move back there right now. Like feel happy thinking about being there and remorse that I'm not there.

OT- Having such a good time alone

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 07/14/2020 - 12:25pm

Since the pandemic started DH and I have been working from home and DS has been here most of the time. This week DH is off on a fishing trip and DS has been here but stayed at his dad's last night and probably will tonight. OMG, I haven't been alone in MONTHS. And DH doesn't need alone time like I do so he's looked to me to be his sidekick and entertainment, and literally pouted when I said I needed some time alone to do my own thing. Plus he's a piler and Mr. 90% has started several projects and not finished that last 10% of a bunch.

Now I'm gonna have to wipe down stuff

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Mon, 07/13/2020 - 4:47pm

Recap: OSS does not communicate or even text back if contacted except he asked DH to borrow a tool. DH told OSS it hurts him that OSS doesn't talk or recognize event/specials days. DH thinks things are better since OSS did contact him (to borrow a tool). But OSS wants to come at a time DH won't be around.

OSS just showed up. DS was surprised to see him, DS only saw him because DS was going outside. So, OSS isn't even contacting DS about stuff. I think my guess was right that OSS was trying to avoid everyone to pick up the tool. 

DH talked to OSS, he thinks it’s working

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Sat, 07/11/2020 - 11:41am

DH told me he talked to OSS. Did he initiate it? No. OSS actually reached out. Really?! For what you may ask: to tell DH that he wouldn't be the one dropping off YSS but that he, OSS, would still like to stop by some time this week to see people and could he borrow the sander. 

Two questions come to mind when DH got to this part:

1. Why would OSS need a sander? He does not live on his own nor has he shown any interest in helping DH with home projects for $$.  Well seems he wants to borrow it to refinish BMs deck. Hmmmmmm

OT- an observation while working from home

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 07/10/2020 - 9:33am

I can hear DH while we are working. I don't listen but he's background noise and my brain notices and logs it. This morning my brain must have gotten enough data points because DH was on a call and my brain asked: have you noticed how he more easily complains about a woman's behavior than a man's, like in this current call?

I said no I hadn't and I asked my brain to defend its statement and it came up with a number of examples, and helpfully compared it to personal situations and his attitude. 

Has OSS done PAS to himself or is he just a jerk?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 07/03/2020 - 9:48am

In my opinion BM has been a bit too enmeshed with OSS19 and YSS17 but not to the same insane levels I read about here. 

OSS did no bday, Xmas or Father's Day presents and didn't even acknowledge DH on Fathers Day. He isn't responding to DHs texts or calls even when DH is offering him a chance to make some $$. We've seen him once since the pandemic hit and I think it was only to come over to see DS. 

Like father, like son

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 07/01/2020 - 2:54pm

DH has been bad again about telling me things that are happening and plans he makes. (He got pissy at me that I knew when he was doing something and I told him the last I heard it was his goal but not a confirmed plan. Jeez  I'm not approving anything, just asking. Yet again he's planning something with a skid so of course he's tense and taking it out on me.)

Yet he's also upset that OSS doesn't contact him and doesn't respond to him when he asks questions of OSS. And OSS did zero for Father's Day. 
 

It seems to me like OSS learned to ignore others from his dad. 

Father's Day good and bad

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Mon, 06/22/2020 - 4:09pm

DS told DH happy father's day right away in the morning and spent most of the day with XH (and gave him a gift).

YSS texted DH and came over with a card, gift, and made everyone brunch. 

OSS was nowhere to be seen, wasn't heard from, and had nothing to do with the card or gift. DH still hasn't heard from him. He may be show up later today for a different errand, but no one should hold their breath if they think yesterday will be acknowledged.

 

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