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Comes back around to bite one of us or no?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 01/21/2020 - 10:00pm

DH has historically been down about his kids not following in his footsteps in things. But DS has, not intentionally, done a lot of the stuff DH did as a teen (like sports and activities). The only thing the skids did like DH that DS did not is hold a job while in HS. That's tough to do when you're in a lot of activities. 

There's a new thing now. DS is taking an intro class for DHs profession to see if he likes it. (DS might have tried it anyway without ever meeting DH.) Neither skid is even remotely interested. 

DH complains about BM to DS

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 01/07/2020 - 5:46pm

Yes, you read that right. My DS told me that while he was driving somewhere with DH that during the conversation DH made comments about how BM didn't consult him, DH, on things and just made decisions on things he should have had a say. I'm not sure what since I didn't really want to get into a whole conversation about it. Could have been DH is still bothered about the latest car purchase. BM and YSS apparently called or texted DH while they were at the placing buying the car for YSS. I don't believe they were asking for cash.

Hangry and not self-aware

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 12/26/2019 - 9:03am

Ugh. DH is upset with me again. I thought it was the pressure of parenting and step-parenting together, maybe DS is annoying, but now that the skids are not around as much (college and one in HS with a job), one of the triggers is the skids being around. 

And it's not that I get upset they are coming. They've turned into pleasant young men I can talk to and joke with. DH doesn't seem on edge when DS is around (since he's been around a whole week before the skids and DH was fine).

Holy S4!T is it a full moon?

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Sun, 12/15/2019 - 9:21pm

True to my word to do NOTHING regarding holidays or life events other than my own thing (with a scant few exceptions DH has been horrible about holidays or life events for me or prompting the children to do anything...see previous posts), I said NOTHING about DHs birthday to anyone. I got him some small gifts. Done.

“MY kids would never do that”

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 11/26/2019 - 8:46pm

Says The Revisionist (my DH). He's also The Hypocrite.  
Though he did dumb (and illegal) stuff as a teen, like underage drinking and weed, HIS kids would NEVER drink or do drugs or have underage sex or do something illegal or just plain stupid. Uh huh. Sure.

Guess what? DS and OSS are pretty tight and now I know for a fact OSS has done two of the three specific things listed above. (I don't ask, DS just tells me a lot more stuff than I ever told my parents. He feels at ease telling me stuff about himself and his friends 'cause I won't freak even if I don't approve.)

Russian-roulette for skids appearance at holidays

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 11/26/2019 - 10:06am

I am picking up DS for Thanksgiving. OSS is almost on the way but I realized no one mentioned him at all when I said I was doing the DS pick up. No idea if he's got a ride or BM is getting him or he's not coming home for the holiday. DH hasn't mentioned him at all. (There's also a big storm coming that could impede OSS from getting home if he's waiting to leave.)

When the kids are more responsible than the parent

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Fri, 11/22/2019 - 12:30pm

I don't know why this bothers me to the point it popped back into my brain, but I'm gonna post about it to get it out.

Yesterday DH contacted me to say that YSS was coming to the house (it's hit or miss now that he has a part-time job) and that he, DH, was going to stop at a happy hour some co-workers were having but that he wouldn't be long. And said what he was thinking about for dinner and we could eat a little late. Okay. Fine. I was home before YSS and heard YSS on the phone with DH as YSS was coming in the door. YSS got the same story.

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