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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 03/25/2020 - 12:13pm

Off-topic: I'm really steamed at my coworkers. With the WFH mandate now they can ignore me and put stuff off even more easily and readily. I can give dates and deadlines and still no one pays attention until the last minute. And they just drop offline and I cannot get a hold of them to complete something. It stems from my boss, too. Ugh.

Ho Ly Sh It. DH has a boundary and BM is a total Disney parent

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 03/18/2020 - 10:33am

After all these years of DH excusing and excusing the skids and explaining why it was okay for BM to do things and make decisions that affect us/me, and there be no boundaries there finally is one! It took a pandemic to discover DH has a boundary.

So this was what happened when DH called BM and YSS (separately) to talk to them about why YSS was at friends for hours and in another city two days ago.

--It wasn't YSS alone, it wasn't YSS and OSS, it was BM and YSS that went to that other city

--They went to look at a CAR for YSS

Warning: Skids on the loose

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Tue, 03/17/2020 - 8:28am

DH, DS, and I are at this house. (XH got put under quarantine by his GF and she isolated herself in her house as soon as she heard he was sick--can't tell you how much I appreciate  that woman.) BM, YSS, and OSS are at BMs house. YSS is still on the family GPS app with DH. No idea why he looked since he never remembers he has that app but DH looked yesterday. He saw YSS drive 200 miles and back to another city, in one of the harder hit areas of our state. DH is upset and said he's calling BM today. He doesn't think she's taking it seriously and he said he's gonna talk to YSS.

It's really this hard with small things

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 03/11/2020 - 5:38pm

We do a local, weekly meal kit for convenience and to keep from over-buying food now that two kids are gone. Well, last week I got food poisoning or norovirus or something while DH was traveling (NOT from that food, from fast-food I stopped for because I was in a hurry and hadn't packed a lunch). Means we didn't eat all the food from the week. We have to return the dishes when we pick up the next week's food. So some of it got thrown out. And it matters to the story that DH threw it out.

He has facial hair and a job but he’s still the baby

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Thu, 03/05/2020 - 8:37am

Preface: Shocking as it may sound I like my skids. I don't mind that they come here. They are both good kids, one almost 19 and in college and one 17 in HS with an almost full time job. There is a history of "but they are only X" from both DH and BM, my DS19 over the years has been trusted to handle himself more than these kids, and I think the skids need and deserve the chance for that same level of trust. 

OT - Why We Sleep

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 03/04/2020 - 5:17pm

I read this book a few months ago. It's fascinating. It explains a lot about how lack of sleep affects people and the vicious cycle of memory loss and lack of sleep late in life.

https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144316

(I'm trying to get my DH to read it but he hasn't yet. One of my friends is borrowing it and my mom read it.)

 

Next time I’ll go alone

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Wed, 03/04/2020 - 7:46am

I texted DH yesterday to see if he wanted to go out for dinner. I had a desire for a specific dish. We went. He handled it well at the restaurant (thank you for inviting me out, this is nice, quick kiss). When we got home unbeknownst to me this was a huge declaration of my love for him and he was all gushy about it. Hm. Okay, what's up. 

Think of me tonight

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Submitted by ITB2012 on Mon, 03/02/2020 - 11:47am

Previously I posted that I thought some kind of break is coming with DH. I think it's a breakdown rather than a breakthrough. He's really ramped up lovey-dovey stuff. And that should sound great. However, with DH it's not an altruistic move and a simple expression of love. He expects something in return; I now owe him. He left post-it notes with lovey statements. Not just in one spot, but many, many spots. I didn't just look at them and think that it was sweet, I know that I'd be in trouble if I didn't respond in-kind. I put a small post-it in a book he's reading on the page he bookmarked.

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