Maybe just be asking that question, I already know the answer.

I married my DH when I was just 24, 11 years ago. I became wife and mother in the same day- the skids were 3,4, and 6 at the time. We have primary custody and I have been there for it all- dance recitals, sick days, endless basketball games, vacations, holidays, birthdays, car accidents, the list goes on.

I've even managed to befriend the ex. I knew it was best if we could get along for the kids.

Does anyone out there have a kid/skid with Reactive Attachment Disorder?

After some MAJOR computer investigations in the last two days, I am beginning to think that may be the issue with SS15. DH and BM seperated when he was just over a year old, and SS has a brother that is only 13 months younger than he is, so he kinda got left out... I became "mom" when SS was 3. He never wanted to visit BM when he was little, and refuses to go now. And he loves to take his anger out at me, as the female figure in the house.

Any advice or suggestions with how to deal with him?

I slept on the couch last night. DH and I have been arguing about the skids lately. We had a major blow out with SS15 on Sunday, and DH has refused to talk to me about it. Last night, he promised our son, newly turned 8!, they would play Legos, but SS15 called and needed DH, so DH took off without telling me.

SS15 is staying with friends for a few days while we work some things out regarding his blow up. Seems kinda like a reward, but heh, he's not in my house right now.

But we can't work it out if DH wont' talk.