I am off until after Christmas and have plans to take my son shopping for last minute stuff on Monday. Dh let's me know he is planning on working a half day. He doesn't know I was going to do some shopping early,but I'm thinking because he has sd8 on Monday,he is assuming I will watch her. I don't want to. He didn't ask,he just makes plans to go to work while she is here. I don't want to bring her shopping with us,she is so whiny. I don't want to shop later that day,because it will be a madhouse at the mall. I am pissed because I KNOW dh is assuming I will accommodate him.

I notice how different dh treats me when Sd8 is here. As we speak, Sd8 and Dh are cuddling on the couch several seats away from me,while I sit alone. I haven't been feeling well,nothing contagious,and I could sure use some cuddling! I am so sick of being demoted when skid is here.

Blog hogging today,I admit it! Dh and I were having a disagreement because he was complaining that I am distant with sd8. I have very good reason to be mostly disengaged. Nonetheless,I'm polite and chatty with sd8. She doesn't reciprocate,but I feel I'm doing the right thing. It's humane to acknowledge her and find out about her day. I complained to dh that when I get home sd8 has to be prompted to even say hi to me. I hear him constantly whispering to her "get up and say hi to Onstrike". When I walk in the door I say hi to everyone.

I'm sick of dh complaining that I'm distant with sd8. 2 years ago I came on the scene with such enthusiasm and thinking I would be really involved,only to be treated like crap by sd8 and not really supported by dh. I pulled back to save my sanity and now dh is whining about it. I'm kind,considerate,and chatty with sd8,but not much more. I don't want to put myself in the position to be mistreated. Dh is pissing me off with his lack of understanding this. Sd8 has improved to some degree with dh being more demonstrative with her,but she is still a bossy,entitled,whiny mini wife.