Happy birthday my sunshine.

47 looks indredible on you.   

You cried in my arms on Sunday and expressed your gratitude for me cooking dinner and cleaning the kitchen all through this never ending COVID tax season #3. I only wish I had been doing it every evening for our entire marrige.  You owe me no gratitude. It is I that owe you my eternal thanks for putting up with me. I know I have not always been the easiest person to live with, just ask my mom. Though you and mom do remind me of that when it is time to "let some wind out of my sails".  As dad has coined the phrase.

DW and I had our 28th anniversary last Saturday.  We had a great weekend. We drove to Reno/Lake Tahoe  for our anniversary.  We stayed at the same resort we stayed at when we married.  The wedding chapel we married in is now under a parking lot but we did take some pics at that location with views of the lake.  We ate at a number of great restaurants and very much enjoyed our weekend away from the usual work interruptions of our weekends.

We have a dear friend who is in the throws of a divorce after a 30+ year marriage. They have no children.   I have posted about the situation before. 

The STBXDH cut off the DW financially over a year ago when she refused to comply with his directives.  Rather than going for his throat, as I recommended, she has been taking a protect him and give him the benefit of the doubt, praying for him to wake up, approach.

While do nothing is always an option, doing nothing is nearly entirely ineffective for making change or improving.

While I understand the difficulties in confronting unpleasant situations and upleasant people, rarely does addressing a problem turn out to be as  unpleasant as we often build it up to be before we actually confront upleasant situations and unpleasant people.   This has held true for me my entire life, and it tends to hold true for my DW.