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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Thu, 11/23/2023 - 8:48am

Another poster talked about this a few years back and it really speaks to me today.

BEC = Bitch Eating Crackers: When you dislike someone so much that anything they do, no matter how minor or inoffensive, annoys you beyond any rational level - exemplified by the sentence "look at that bitch eating crackers like she owns the place".

"I can't help it she just drives me nuts, she's my Bitch Eating Crackers."

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Fri, 11/10/2023 - 11:34am

SO and BM2 were in court for the past 3 years over CS and custody. It was ugly, there were ex-partes, etc. The one good thing about it was that during that time, BM followed the custody schedule with one of the kids, SS13.  The other SS is 19 and lives with SO full-time.

Vent and Personal Doc. of Current Bullsh!t

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Wed, 10/25/2023 - 9:55pm

Background - SO has SD24 and SD26 with BM1, who moved them out of state at ages 3 and 5 when they divorced. SO paid CS and saw them a few times a year for maybe a week or 2 at a time. SO has SS13 (50/50 custody) and SS19 (lives FT with SO) with BM2, and they divorced maybe 12 years ago. Relevant because BM2 never lived with the SDs and wasn't a hands-on stepmom. The SDs have also said that BM2 physically abused them when they would visit, hitting them with hard objects like TV remotes and force-feeding them until they vomited. Not a "warm" SM/SD relationship. 

Update to SO Court Case

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Wed, 10/11/2023 - 9:18am

Update to previous blog about SO's CS case. Maybe 6 months ago, SO received notification that there was a CS review. From what the lawyers can tell, BM2 initiated it. Per the first review, SO was told that his CS would go up by about 50%, even though one of the SSs had aged out and the other one is 50/50, except that SS13 is at SO's house *every* afternoon and evening after school, even on BM2's  week.

Update to My Kid Came Out as Trans

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Fri, 10/06/2023 - 2:15pm

I did some research and found a good therapist who specializes in gender issues. We've had a few visits and he does seem to be an expert in the area with over 30 years of treating people with gender dysphoria. He does think my kid (born female) truly has it and isn't likely to change his mind. The therapist said the best thing a parent can do is respect their kid's preferred name and pronouns, so that's what i'm going to do.

My Kid Came Out as Trans

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Fri, 09/22/2023 - 11:51am

I know several on here have dealt with skids who are trans, so you may have some experience. My daughter told me last night that she (who I will refer to as they from here on) is trans and plans to go forward with transitioning when they turn 18, which is in a few months. They want to start taking testosterone and have a double mastectomy, though they say they don't want "bottom surgery" for a while, maybe never. They also stated they have been going by a different name for over a year to their friends and said my son (away at college) also knows and is accepting. 

What is Normal?

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Fri, 09/08/2023 - 7:57am

I recently posted about my SO starting to take Adderall. Now he is determined to start taking testosterone. He had his measured at the doctor and it was in the normal range, but he wants it higher and he plans to find a way to get it. All this got me thinking "why now?"

Court Update, or Why SO is So Stressed

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Submitted by Rumplestiltskin on Sun, 08/20/2023 - 12:40pm

My SO has been divorced from BM for 10 years. He has SS13 and SS19. About 2.5 years ago, BM filed an ex-parte motion to have emergency full custody. She alleged that SO’s home was unfit due to SO’s drinking and drug use, and SO’s daughter’s (22 at the time, with BM1) drug use. SO does drink, but only at home before bed, and does not use drugs. SDnow24 is a pot head, but did not live with SO at the time and still doesn't. After much drama and the kids being removed from SO’s home for a few weeks, the ex-parte was thrown out.

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