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Hubby finally stepped up- SDs are not happy!

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Submitted by Smellissa on Fri, 01/24/2014 - 8:17am

I am a red hot flaming hypocrite!

You see, when I was in school, there was nothing else in the world that I wanted at 7 in the morning, as much as I wanted to go back to bed. Most days, there was nothing that my mom could offer me or take away from me that would get me up and off to school.

And homework? Homework was something I did FOR FUN, but not something I ever gave back to my teachers! I couldn't be bothered.

snowflake

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Submitted by Smellissa on Wed, 01/15/2014 - 5:34am

How is your husband? How are you?

I wanted to let you know I'm praying for you, in Ohio, and remind you to take care of yourself!

SD14 setting me off

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Submitted by Smellissa on Mon, 01/13/2014 - 11:47am

I suffer from PTSD. When I was 10 or 11, a family member molested me. This went on until I was 16. As I got older, he added more people into his games, and became very sadistic.

I still have horrible dreams. I cannot stand loud noises. I have so many little quirks, as a result of this.

I'm in therapy, and I've gotten so much better at recognizing my triggers, and being honest about what I need.

Still, yesterday was a bad day. The last week has been filled with so much stress, and so little sleep. When I do sleep, I'm having nightmares.

Not sure how to do this...

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Submitted by Smellissa on Sun, 01/12/2014 - 6:02am

When SD14 was 4, her mom moved them in with a man who abused her.

The story is that SD14 spilled some dog food on the floor, and this man either made her kneel on a hot register vent or held her up against a hot stove. SD was wearing jeans but got third degree burns on her knees.

(Original story is hot register vent. Later, aunt figured out that the burn pattern on the knees matched the pattern on the top of the stove door.)

worried, tired, stressed out and pissed off

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Submitted by Smellissa on Sat, 01/11/2014 - 2:40pm

About two months ago, my mom finally decided to see a doctor about some female problems she'd been having. Turns out, she has cancer. It's an aggressive form of cervical cancer.

Around the same time, my oldest sister saw her doctor about her recently bad periods. He sent her to the same gyno Mom saw, referring her for an eblasion. They found both cancerous and precancerous cells.

They scheduled both my mom and my sister for hysterectomies, which happened this past week. My other sister and stepdad both joined them at the hospital Wednesday, Thursday, and Friday.

SD12 just made my night!

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Submitted by Smellissa on Thu, 12/26/2013 - 10:23pm

Money was a little tight this year, and it was our first Christmas EVER with both SDs. I still managed to get Hubby a decent gift (a new cell phone) and a few nice things for SDs (android cell phones, portable dvd players, boots and a game system). However, Hubby's nicest gift for me was a remote from the dollar tree.

It's over

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Submitted by Smellissa on Tue, 12/17/2013 - 12:40pm

Yesterday was (yet another) THE important day at court.

This was our fourth THE day at court, though. The first three times, we walked in, waiting for things to happen, and someone hadn't been served properly. Then, they had to set the court date out for another month.

It was really a pain in the ass, because Guardian Dad had to miss work, and Hubby had to miss work. I would get stressed out, and SD12 would get stressed out. My house was horrible in the days leading up to court!

I've waited ten years for this

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Submitted by Smellissa on Thu, 11/28/2013 - 11:16pm

Hubby and I haven't gotten to have both of his kids for a holiday in over ten years. Today was the first time!

We went to my mom's and spent it with thirty of many closest relatives (mom, sisters, brothers, their spouses and kids). It was wild.

I got a few pictures of the four of us (I've waited five years for that! ) and two of the 30+ of us.

At one point SD12 was on the phone, sitting beside me. She said "you don't understand, she's done so much for me! She saw me hurting, and she just filled my heart up with love!"

the POOP alarm

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Submitted by Smellissa on Tue, 11/26/2013 - 1:57pm

I've been reduced to setting an alarm for ten minutes before the SKIDS come home. It's a reminder to do anything I want to do alone. My sister calls it my poop alarm, because even in the bathroom, I can't get alone time! Lol

grateful

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Submitted by Smellissa on Tue, 11/26/2013 - 12:25pm

I just really need to blog about how THANKFUL I am today.

My life is not any easier, with two "teenage" girls in my house.

One thing I never thought about is how expensive it is to feed two kids. I guess, that's a throw back to growing up almost rich (of course, I didn't realize that until I became poor! Lol) But, my cable and internet have been recently cut off, and I've still skipped a couple of meals, so the girls could be well-fed.

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