Do you initiate affection with your step kids or do you let them? I always get nervous when saying bye to them when I go somewhere or if they are going back to their moms. I always second guess myself on whether I should hug them or not. Any advice? 

My husband, BM and her husband were all talking the other day. BM's husband was telling something about  what BM would eat and my husband said that she has never eaten that before. It kinda bothered me because how does he know what she has eaten? Would this bother you if you all got along with each other? 
 

We are going on vacation and are currently packing. DH pulls out 2 suitcases and said he was gonna ask BM if she wanted one because they both bought it a while back. I'm using one with him. Should this bother me?? 

So me, DH, BM, and her husband all get along. Her and her husband has a baby girl together. Anyway, DH always talks about her to people and it sometimes makes me sad. Not that I don't want a kid of my own, just idk it seems like he is treating her like his in some ways. Sometimes he will pick her up and hold her.  He will change her diaper, feed her, etc. I know I post a lot and I know you all have suggested therapy, but it sometimes bothers me. Having a baby isn't for me I don't think. I wouldn't have the freedom I have now.