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My rope is unraveling.
If you've followed my blogs this shouldn't be too confusing (about SD5 who isn't even DF's daughter). This is a long vent...I just needed to get it out.
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BM and SS3's boots...the winter clothing battle begins.
Saturday: BM texted DF to see if he had SS3's winter boots because she couldn't find them. DF told her that yes, we do.
Sunday afternoon: BM dropped off SD5 for trick or treating at our house (we already had SS3) and asked where SS3's boots were. It was 55 degrees out -- not cold enough for boots that day. DF said, "We have them in his closet." She says, "Well, do you know FOR SURE that you have them? Could you CHECK?" So DF goes down to SS3's bedroom, gets them out of the closet, and brings them upstairs to show BM that we have them. All she says is, "Okay."
When you swap weekends with BM, and HER plans change, whose responsibility is it to figure out where the kids go?
About a month ago DF confirmed with BM the plans for Thanksgiving weekend: it is "supposed" to be our weekend and her holiday (Thurs/Fri), but DF asked her if we could switch it, because we are meeting with my family on that Saturday night (about 4 hours away). BM said it was no big deal because her family doesn't do much for Thanksgiving anyway and she knows that DF's family does, so she even said that it makes more sense for him to have the kids on the holiday.
BM's and their costumes...(two posts in one!)
Someone I know (who is 'friends' with BM on Facebook) texted me today, "Did you see the pics from BM's Halloween costume on Facebook?"
Of course I had to look.
She was supposedly dressed as Paris Hilton. I sooooo wish you guys could see this. For one thing, I've always thought she looked like Paris anyway for some reason (and she must get that, too), upper body and face there's a resemblance. BM is very thin but has pretty large legs compared to the rest of her (and compared to Paris).
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Should DF get in touch with SD's real dad to avoid having to go through BM? (Update/repost of Friday's blog)
BM's been lying to us, to our daycare provider, and to her daughter's bio dad.
(I am reposting this with an update at the end...I need advice too.)
BM caught in her lies today...this time emcompassing EVERYONE in her child's life.
BM's been lying to us, to our daycare provider, and to her daughter's bio dad.
About a year ago, when SD5 (not fiance's actual daughter) and SS3 first started going to this new daycare, I remember DF remarking that BM put his name as SD's biological father. He kind of shrugged it off. About a month or two ago, after some strange comments from other daycare parents, I told DF that I don't think daycare knows that SD has a "real" dad and it's not you! He shrugged it off again, saying that he was sure they knew.
BM won't sign the quitclaim deed on fiance's house...What is her reason?
DF and BM bought the house I now live in together, although BM only lived there for about 6 months before they broke up. She hasn't paid a dime since then, and DF has been making the payments alone for about 2.5 years. Every few months he gets sick of seeing BM's name still coming on the statements and it reminds him to ask her if she'll sign the quitclaim deed paperwork. She always says no.
The "good" stepmom in me is slipping away...
This is me being honest and self-critical. And it's me being emotional and rolling with pregnancy hormones. Maybe I shouldn't even write this so that others can see it and criticize me for it...I just needed to get this out.
I'm struggling with being a step mom. It used to be that the only struggle I had with stepparenting was the fact that we have to deal with BM and her relatives. But now it's starting to trickle into my feelings for the kids and that really scares me.
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SS3 manipulates BM like crazy...and she knows it...and she lets him!
Yesterday I picked up SS3 from day care and Julie (daycare provider) asked me how SS is for us when he wakes up from naps -- he takes a good half hour to get out of his 'funk'. We talked about that for a bit, and Julie said that they've been working on putting "away" Whiney Boy after naps 
Then she also said they've been working on the whole 'situation' of when BM drops him off in the mornings.
Don't mean to gloat, but I have the best fiance ever! :)
We are supposed to have the skids tonight, but DF had received tickets to a game (that is tonight) at work for him to use to take out a client. He found a client to take out, so I just figured I'd be home with the skids from around 7 to whenever he gets home. But last night he said, "BM's going to pick up the kids tomorrow night around 7."