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Writing a letter to Child Support to review case....should we include this stuff?
The birth of my child is looming, and we're scared about finances. I currently don't have a job in my field, and I only make half of what I COULD be making right now. My fiance called the Child Support Agency and asked them if anything changes when he has another baby with his current Child Support payments to BM. They told him he can write a letter and explain the changes that are occurring in his life, which include the new child, and they will review it.
OT: How do YOU deal with one-uppers?
We all know the type: my day was worse than yours, my day was better than yours, I'm going to compare everything of mine to everything of yours and somehow mine will always be better (or given the situation, worse). I've known plenty of people in life with this type of personality...and it usually is something easy to shrug off and let it blow over your head, especially when that person isn't someone close to you. But what do you do when that person is a good friend? Or the significant other of your best friend? I'd love to share ideas on how you all deal with these personalities.
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Vent about the continuing drama between my own mother and SM.
Awhile back I created quite a stir around here when I blogged about wanting my stepmother involved in my baby shower, and how my mom reacted to all of that (she did not want my SM to even attend it, but I was really saddened that my SM wasn't going to attend). To refresh on the background, my parents have been divorced for 11 years now and my mom would still take my dad back in a heartbeat. Dad is happily remarried to the woman he had an affair with -- my SM -- (although my parents were separated at the time), and all this happened when my sister and I were both over 17.
Should we ask BM for help during my maternity leave?
I've been trying to figure out what we're going to do after the baby comes and during my maternity leave, on the mornings we have the stepkids. DF's schedule at work is very random in the mornings. He either works at 5:30, 6, 6:30, 7, or 7:30 with a VERY occassional 8 or 9am in there. That being said, it's VERY rare that he is ever able to be around in the mornings to help out with getting the skids ready, or that his late mornings line up with the ones when we have them.
OT: Need Roommate out NOW! Need to prepare nursery for my own sanity!
Beyond the fact that I could blame the nesting thing, I'm typically a preparer. I want all my ducks in a row. We have everything we "need" for the baby...except it's all sitting in boxes and bags in a pile in our basement closet. Nothing is put together yet. I have 7 weeks until my due date.
BM said she was sick so we'd take the kids and she could have a party...
Our night to have the skids this week was last night (Monday), then not until the weekend. The other day BM asked if we could take them on Wednesday night this week as well. She offered to switch days but we told her that we'd just take them the extra day.
Then yesterday at work, DF found out he had to stay late, and that he would be needing to go into work at 5:30 this morning. So he thought he'd just see if BM had plans and would indeed want to switch with him. She told him that she's not feeling good and would be going to bed right after she got home from work.
DF's "friend" apparently wants to ride the BM train.....yuck!
My fiance has a friend, I'll call him Jake. They have known each other for years although they don't hang out very much anymore (about 3 times a year they go to the casino together, about once every other month or so we meet up with Jake for dinner/lunch). Jake was one of the people DF was considering to be a groomsman in our wedding, then decided not to. Although I like him, he has this nervous energy when I'm around. I asked DF if he's always like that, and DF told me "kind of"...then he said he just gets nervous around girls sometimes unless he's drinking. Okay...so whatever.
Ridiculous amounts of presents because of blended families...
Just a little vent about gifts and kids. We debated whether or not to get the kids much for Christmas, and we felt like we didn't have much under the tree when it came down to the week of. But after all the gifts from Grandmas and Grandpas and aunts and uncles and Santa it turned out they got TONS AND TONS of stuff. Not that we're not thankful, but we're seriously considering next year telling DF's parents to tone it down A LOT.
DF's new theory on BM is that she is an ESCORT
DF has put together a few things and came to the conclusion that BM must be running some sort of escort service. Since they've broken up, she's ALWAYS given him more details that he cares to know about her flings and boyfriends. It's usually very obvious she tries to make him jealous. She is also the type to post information on her Facebook statuses about what she's doing over the weekend, posts photos when she goes out, etc.
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Of course BM is going to the same NHL game we're going to...GRRRRRRR!
I bought DF tickets to an NHL game (he's never been to one but is a huge fan). I picked a weekend we DON'T have the skids...makes sense, right? We will travel 4 hours for a long weekend, stay at DF's brother's for 2 nights and have one night in a hotel. It will be our "last hurrah" before the baby comes in February. Of course we were excited, right?