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"I CAN WALK BY MYSELF!!"

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Do you ever laugh at your stepkids meltdowns? The hilarity is overwhelming. My SD(9) is very much the stereotypical COD that is talked about on this site. No concept of responsibility or consequences. Dr. Evil thinks Mini-Me can do no wrong, and Disney Dad likes to look the other way/make excuses. Lately DH has really started to step up as far as making her do things herself. She has been catered to all her life. Maid at mom's. Got to choose what to eat and when. I told DH she needs to write thank you cards to learn the concept of humility. I am also a huge thank you card person.

Bought hex's present...

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Often times, My SD makes a confused face, which is usually followed by a smartass comment. She pretends to act confused because she is under the assumption if she does she will be excused from being a smartass. This is akin to the "do something wrong and then act innocent afterwards like I didn't know it was wrong". Please keep this in mind for the following conversation:

I hate the damn JCP

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I am boiling with resentment today. I usually consider myself a rational person. However, I am going to rant and let it all vent out. If I offend anyone or come across as crazy, I apologize. I do love my DH and care for my SD. I do. That being said:

Counseling did nothing...

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Since SD doesn't have a counselor, I wanted DH and I to go a counselor to work on our issues (which mostly stem from being blended, but some other things). Insurance recommended a guy, and I looked him up on his website. He looked older, which I was fine with because my DH is in his late 40's (I'm in my late 20's). He had an extensive background, but it listed nothing about blended families. However, there was a ton of other stuff and degrees listed so I thought he would be great.

I was wrong.

SD wants to buy hex an expensive present...

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We have SD (age8) tonight. Last time until Christmas week, when we have her all week. She informs me that Dr. Evil has bought me FOUR presents-two shirts, lotion and "something else". Urgh, wtf??? She says that we need to start working on getting a present for her Mom. I asked her what she had in mind. She said jewelry, and it has to be REALLY nice, after all her mom bought me FOUR presents. She was thinking along lines of 80$. I snorted. Dr. Evil and SD have a taste for expensive things.

DH wants to lie to SD...

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My DH got laid off several days ago. I mentioned to him that he needs to tell SD. He said no, it's none of her business. I informed him that she's almost 9, she's part of the family so yes it is. My father got laid off when I was young and thats a part of reality kids to know. Not scare her, but reassure her it's all fine. DH said that he doesn't have to tell her, and that when he finds a new job (whenever that will be) he will just tell her he got a new job. I asked him what he will tell SD when she notices his company car is gone. "I will tell her it's in the shop."

DH got laid off...

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Both DH and I are in the Army reserves. I got laid off from my Active Reserve job in October (funding issues), so now I just drill one weekend a month (as does DH). DH just lost his civilian job this morning Sad It was a great job and he had been doing it for a decade. We will be okay, we have funds in savings and no car payments. Few recurring costs. Just sucks because he loved his job, and this is right before Christmas. We do not plan on telling SD until after Christmas.

Both want the same thing, neither can agree...

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Remember that short story where the wife cuts off all her long, beautiful hair to buy her Husband a chain for his pocket watch? But he sold the pocket watch to get her a ornate comb for her long hair? Neither communicated with each other and they ended up with a WTF gift? Yeah, it's kind of like the same principle here. Except both parties loathe each other.

Both Dr. Evil and DH want to get SD a counselor. Problem is-neither will communicate with the other to get her one.

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