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Hex touched DD

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This past week we all attended SDs 3rd grade western day. They all dressed up in outfits, did games outside all day, etc. DH, DD (10 months) and MIL were all seated together in the gym before the square dance. I was chatting with another woman across the gym. Hex and her mother (hex is like the bud light to her mothers Wild Turkey, PAS wise) came up to them and acted friendly. MIL was holding DD, who was giggling away. Hex then TOUCHED my daughter foot, and tickled her. She held onto her foot for a good minute. I stood frozen across the gym, not knowing what to say or do.

I want another baby

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DD is 9 months old. I miss being pregnant; I truly enjoyed it. My brother and I are close in age, and I would love to give DD a brother. DH also wants a boy, but we know a girl is always a possibility. I do wonder how crazy things would get with SD (9) and then two girls close in age. I never had a sister, but some friends do and they are either intensely close or mortal enemies it seems like.

Hex apparently wants to medicate SD

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I haven't updated in a while, but it's been more or less the same: PAS out the wazoo. DH has stepped up a lot, however I wish he would more.

Last night we had SD. She was unusually chipper and was behaving well. We were talking about school (SD hates school) while I was out planting in the garden. The following conversation took place:

SDs counselor, part 2

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Dh and hex have a trial date set 6 months from now.

DHs lawyer asked DH to obtain a copy of SDs counselors notes. If counselor is hesitant, sign a release so he can talk to the counselor. DH has joint legal. Lawyer will subpoena the notes as a last resort, as he doesn't want hexs lawyer to know. DH emailed counselor politely asking for notes. He stated he was worried as SD has been self harming, and he feels that he should know a general basis of what goes on.

Met with SDs counselor

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We met with SDs counselor tonight. She seems caring. She is not yet a licensed LLC, but somewhat close. away from becoming one. She asked DH to sign an agreement stating he will try not to subpoena her to testify. This is reason number 2 why DH should have been the first one to get SD a counselor: hex picked, so if she DOES have to testify and claims there are elements of parental alienation, hex can come back with "but she's not yet licensed". And if he wanted. a counselor to testify in court, SD would have to warm up to having a second one.

Why can't I give up?

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why do I do this to myself? Why do I do things to make her happy when she will be temporarily happy and then forget, or not at all and compare it to her moms? Why am I a glutton for punishment? I always am bewildered because when I was her age, I was grateful for anything and everything I got. And now I wonder- why do I keep comparing her to me? It's the SAME pattern: SD and I get close, I get so excited and happy, then SD does something that snaps me back to reality. We do something for SD, she then puts it down and ridicules it, yet is unwilling to do it herself.

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