Can a BM be so bad that she drives a good dad away? Or should a dad do whatever he can to continue being a good dad and be involved in his kids lives? Even if dealing with the BM becomes unbearable?

Curious as to everyone's thoughts on this.

DH recently purchased a motorcycle. It's a "Beginner" meaning it's not the most visually appealing motorcycle but it works. He didn't want to put a lot of money into a bike until he gets used to riding and feels comfortable, etc.

He is in the process of getting his full license.

He has taken me for a couple of rides. I felt comfortable riding with him in that I know he knows what he is doing. I worry more so about other people. I read online top motorcycle accidents are from alcohol and other cars.

I'm all about equal rights. I don't think that the man has to be the breadwinner.

BUT...

What is the appeal in taking in a man that doesn't even have 2 pennies to rub together? And then even better take on this man's kids and deal with his crazy ex. What is the appeal?

Is it low self esteem on the woman's part?

Is it equal rights?

Is it that as humans we should love someone for what they are and not what they earn or own materialistically?

So how many of you have "cut your nose off to spite your face".

Ya know- hated BM so bad that you did something that ended up affecting you in the long run and not in a good way.

For example- hated BM so much that you:

Turned her in for Section 8 fraud, to only end up with the skids full time.

Encouraged your SO to take her to court for full custody of the kids because she was so unfit, only to end up with bratty skids that hate you and make your home life miserable.