Ok, the situation is....SD12 will not speak to me, look at me, be in the same room as me, use any gift she thinks I had a hand in picking out, etc. In short she pretends I'm not alive and makes her hatred of me very clear. I KNOW this is a problem for me more so in regards to DH's lack of response to it, not her actual behavior. I KNOW she is a child, I KNOW she will push as far as allowed. My own children, as all children do, sometimes are lacking in manners, have a burst of disrespectfulness, forget their place. So I see her behaviors as age appropriate misbehavior.

I have tried to avoid facebook because it's just not my thing and I kind of like my privacy anywho.....I finally gave in and made a profile. Contacted a long lost girl friend and a few other of my past close friends. Posted a few family pics. I listed my bio kids and DH but choose to leave SD off since they don't give an option of step. I knew she would not want me to include her and BM would like it even less than SD had I claimed to have her as a daughter.

I'll appologize up front...this is long !!!

All in one evening I went from being proud of DH for his effort to parent and then sick from being made to feel responsible for both sides of the lack of relationship with SD11.