SS12 is having meltdowns at BM, yet again; and now SS8 is modeling this behavior too.

SSons behavior at our house is fine. We have house rules (have had rules in place for 3-years) and the boys behavior is fine in our care. When SSons do act up its normal kid and sibling stuff but not the out of control behavior they exhibit at BM’s house.

BM doesn’t utilize house rules. SSons run her house and when she tries to step up and parent they flip out on her. SSons have absolutely no respect for her.

BM bought SS12 a cell phone. It’s only for emergencies. *Right*

I knew it was coming, so did DH.

DH’s spin on it:

She’s paying for it. DH is waiting for the 1st $200 bill so he can say, “not my phone not my problem” }:)

Its good SS12 has a way of contacting us in an emergency.

DH is happy he doesn’t have to talk to BM as much.

Here’s my spin on it:

SS12 has been having behavioral problems lately. He has had 3 meltdowns in the last 4 weeks. He gets very aggressive and tries to hurt SS7 and BM. The last time BM called DH to try to calm SS12 down. When DH got to BM’s house SS12 had locked BM and SS7 out of the house. SS12 then crawled out a window and tried to attack DH when he saw him. DH had to physically restrain SS12.

Help! I’m struggling with the clothes issue. I know it’s petty and it shouldn’t bother me but when SSon’s clothes (that we bought) disappear it’s like sand between my toes. I have been working hard not to let it get to me, I haven't said a word about it to DH for months, it doesn’t bother DH when they wear clothes that we’ve bought to BM’s, but it bothers me and here’s why:

BM never sends back the clothes. EVER. DH has to “remind” SSons repeatedly to bring stuff back, translation, he yells at SSons.