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As stated in my profile, I'm a 37 year old single mom with two kids ages 18 and 14. I'm engaged to a really great guy who has an 8 year old daughter.
My problems are pretty much the result of two separate factors, which I'll keep separate.
Everytime my SS11 visits, my H wants to make it a vacation of nonstop fun. WTH? I keep telling him he has guilty dad syndrome, but he says no. H wants to call in sick to work for the time SS11 is on summer visitation (15days June, 15 days July) H refuses to plan fun when SS is not with us...why? We have two BD's and life isn't supposed to stop when SS leaves. This is so frustrating and it is seriously affecting our marriage. It doesn't help that the BM is nuts, really, she has been in and out of rehab.
I saw a commercial of how to modify children's behavior...
This is the website:
maybe it can help?
I almost stayed over at a friend's house this past Thursday night because my H and I are having problems...or should I say I'm having issues with us. He told me he wanted to work to fix things and didn't want me to leave. So I stayed. Well the terms were that he was not to take me for granted and to tell me what's going on with my SD8's childcare considering I watch her most of the time, as agreed.
Do you think Nightlights in general are OK for kids?
I seem to have a problem with them... for some reason...
Well SD5 and BS1 share a room, and he doesn't go to sleep unless is dark, otherwise he will stay playing...
SD5 sometimes claims that she is "scared of the dark", DH bought her a nightlight and I do not agree with that, I think children should sleep in the dark...
BS will be gone for about a month, and I don't want her to get used to the nightlight, and then have BS come back and not be able to sleep with light...
OMG, just when my life is becoming sane again, more drama acts up from the BM camps. SD14 walked on on us over a year ago to go and move in with her mother because we were soooo awful (chores, bedtimes, clean clothes, school, you know the generally abusive things we get accused of) and BM had no boundaries and thought it would be just peachy to have her live at her exhusband (she moved out to live with lesbian spouse but "Maintains" a room at the old residence, just a ploy to keep excessive child support coming her way.
Okay......so last Friday BM calls H and asks:
A. Can she pick up SD13 at our home around 5pm, instead of the drop off point?
B. Can she keep her until Monday and bring her to school? She will be bringing SD3's little sister to school and can drop SD13 off.
H asked BM if she would promise SD13 would be in school, because the last time she did this BM kept SD13 with her all day and ran errands instead. BM promised SD13 would be in school. H said okay to both questions.
Well, we are going...me, H and kids including SD14 whose sister18 is graduating from HS. Gosh, I don't want to go, don't want to see BM, SD16, just want to bury my head in the sand. H won't go unless I go with him. 
For those of you who have read my previous blog entry about BM telling DH that she is thinking about having SD5 cut her butt length hair to donate it to cancer patients... Just skip until after the asterisks... If you want some background info, then just read through...
Well, I do not think is a decision someone like SD5 should be left with... Many times, she says YES to something but when that "something" actually comes reality, she doesn't want it/like it... My 3 major reasons of why I think this is not the greatest idea are...
I realize now that I did not take the time to process the situation that I am in. I did not realize that BM is a everyday part of my life, and Im not sure how to deal. My H is a very guilt ridden parent, who jumps when BM calls or asks for money, (on top of the 1200 per month support) and needs groceries. She recently had issues with getting the child support checks on time. Keep in mind that she works full time and should be able to get by on that alone. H was bending over backwards to make sure that she got the checks.