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Sometimes I just hate being a step mother!!! I have two sd, ages 12 and 18. I love them as if they were my own. We get along good most of the time. However, the mom resents me. She is remarried, but doesn't seem to think that the step dad is a step parent. Well, anyway, the 12yr old had to have two rods put in her back to correct severe scoliosis. She is in ICU, and at times, only parents can visit. We had a big fight with the hospital. All four of us wanted to visit her, but in twos. Since we were step parents, we were not allowed to see her.
I was wondering if a person can detach so much they end up losing feelings for their situation S/O permantely.
I have had many struggles with my FH and his oldest bioson. this boy is 18 with a 9th grade educ. smokes cigs and weed, drinks (not soda unless it is mixed with vodka) no job - now, FH has been living for the most part with me while maintaining a rental which BS lives and hangs with loser friends. by the way that house is TRASHED!
Well I have discovered that my ex and his wife are swingers. My youngest son was at his house and I went to pick him up to take him to camp and there was a banner laying there that the wife was making with a swingers logo on it. My kids are aware of this because I called my oldest sons girlfriend and asked her about it. She said yes, they both know. The youngest is 15 and the oldest is 19. She said that they found some pictures on the computer of the stepmother. In doing more research I found another website that they are affiliated with. The ex knows that I know about this.
And I'm getting anxiety just knowing the hours are ticking away until we will go pick up ss. Hopefully it will be a nice uneventful weekend, but that is such a rare thing these days. It seems every weekend that we have him, there is something. It's bad enough that ss is showing strong feelings of entitlement syndrome, and has been switching up the guilt game with Dh lately, witch kills Dh and then I have to spend the next few days after we drop SS off repairing Dh so he doesn't feel like a horrible father.
how do I get my post not to show the whole thing on the main page? I do not mean for that to happen. Sorry yall!
In last blog I posted about H dropping son off and child care his mom has him at when the 13 year is not watching him and I reported that it was a dump.
I know I complain and complain and complain. DH STILL overpays BM just to shut her up. (Not by much, only $26 a month too much which is down from $115 too much.) But she's not even happy with that.
I mean really is ANYONE happy with the child support they get or the child support they pay?
I've grown to ACCEPT what DH pays. Happy...no. I'd be happy if she got a good paying job and stuck with it and DH paid accordingly. She is a MA and has potential to have a career that pays great if she would stay at her job more than a year. Maybe then I'd be satisfied.
DH got papers in the mail from BM attny, she wants his w2 from the passed three years and what he pays out, can he request the same of her??? and can he subpeona all her bills and wages to make sure she isnt lying? DH is scared since BM has only had her new job for 6 months that he is gonna get slammed for cs since she was reported making 19,000 in 06,07 and part of 08, and he was making 38,000 in 06,07,and part of 08. She now makes about 29000 a year with the new job but hasnt been a year yet!! Also she tried to claim some things that arent in her name or that the government pays for!!
Okay guys this seems to be the question of the week for me. Okay my relationship with DH is on very thin water for many reasons,, but to the question
My mother, whom was never there for me as a child and is barely there for my own children has invited me and my daughter to gulf shores. WHen I asked if one of the SD's could come she said no she wanted it to just us. Well I was able to understand that.
Well after talking with friends, some say its wrong and some say I shouldnt feel guilty because the plan is that I go with my two daughters.
Thank you to anyone who reads or provides feedback! I have been reading many of the blogs for quite some time and can totally relate to so many of them! I was curious to find out how any of you resolved a BM not allowing a child to come for scheduled visits. We went down this route exactly one year ago and are traveling down the same road again now. BM and DH have joint custody of SS6. On my DH scheduled day to pick up son from BM, she was not at home with SS. Actually, we were not caught by surprise b/c she had threatened this earlier in the week over the phone.
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