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So FH got offered an amazing job, the only problem is it is on the East Coast. Currently we live on the West Coast in the same small town as BM. Due to recent events in court we have managed to obtain custodial custody of SD3. We have her 75% of the time. How will our moving affect this in court? Is there a way that BM could prevent us from moving? Does it help that we are moving for better job opportunities and to be in a better school district? The move will not happen for another seven months so we have time to work things out in court if needed.
im curious to know if looking back you feel that the major reason you married dh was to not let bm win? Did you feel like she created all the drama and what not to end your relstionship, and you just couldnt walk away because then she wins, and you walk away from some one that you love?
if you did, do you think now that win or lose, you should have left it all, and not kept dealing with it? letting her win and walking away from the constant termoil would have been the better choice?
Ok, for those of you who don't know...
My son's spermdad has never been part of our lives. My husband met my son when he was a week old, married me when my son was 7 months old... and today my son is 20 months old. He is the ONLY father figure my son has ever had, and he will be legally adopting at some point.
Well, he refers to him as "my son" with everybody... and tells me he loves him as his own...
And of course, there is also SD5 that he had with his girlfriend at the time.
because it wasn't what she remembered discussing. DH wasted time and money for the attorney to draw up the papers. She sent an email that he needed to change a few things. DH already told the attorney that if she changed her mind...going to trial. She wanted it put in the parenting plan that the kids can change their mind in the future without going to court and no child support. DH will have 2 and she basically will have 1 but in writing 50/50. What nut case would believe any parent would agree to that!
I think that I am finally getting over all the awful things that were said by SDs on and around Mother's Day. I didn't think that I ever would but then this past weekend had a huge fight with DH where he basically told me that he doesn't see any of the things/effort I've put in to being a SM. I realized that it doesn't matter what SDs say or what DH says. I know that I have done my best and tried my hardest. Once I realized that I realized that I can just keep doing what I've been doing and stay true to myself. No matter what I do it doesn't make a difference to DH or SDs.
I posted this as a reply to another blog..and thought what a good idea it is.
BM's newest manipulative way to get FH away from me is calling at the last minute to take SS to daycare in the morning (she knows by 730 am but she calls FH at 845 - when she knows I'm not around)..to tell him SS needs a ride to daycare. OR making pickup/dropoff arrangements at different times (usually when I'm working).
Here's some background: SS is in a summer enrichment program for four weeks. BF agreed to give money to SS each week for the trips that he will be taking during this program. He also agreed to reimburse BM for 1/2 the gas money to take SS to this program, since it's driving she would not normally be doing because he usually rides the bus to school. Ok, fine. He is also still paying child support like clockwork.
I find myself angry and saddened that BD (1) is growing up in an environment filled with chaos and drama; all of it filtering in from skids/bm. I see all the crappy behavioral issues the skids are bringing into our home (compliments of BM) and I worry that BD will pick up on these things. I know raising kids is difficult enough, but to have BM even slightly impacting my daughters life just ticks me off to no end. I grow tired of having MIL spoiling skids because their parents divorced. DH believes that all three kids should be treated equally....and I agree...to a point.
so yesterday i mention to fh that i felt like an outsider at ss4 tball practice. i feel that bm manipulates ss in to behaving badly to make fh feel guilty like he is doing something wrong or to get fh to rush to her side to try to coach ss not to behave that way.
I don't know WHAT is going on..but something is eating at me..I don't know if it's women's intuition or my guts telling me but I don't like it..
I found out a little while ago that FH took SS to daycare this am. Usually BM drives to work with her mom and they drop off son at daycare. So Monday I found out that BM called FH to drop SS off because her mom didn't (she didn't go to work?)..he didn't but he had his mom do it..so than this morning my girlfriend tells me she saw FH driving with SS...so I ask him why he didn't tell me?
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